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aspergers and gender dysmorphia

markjulips

Hi - I have a 31year old son whom I think may have a mild form Aspergers but has never been diagnosed as it never entered our heads before my neice started having "problems" with her young son and he was diagnosed with autism (which made us do a lot of reading and research with her).  My son has an extremely high IQ and always been good at mathematics and computer programming and has always had obsessions in the past which have always fizzled out when he finds another.  He finds it extremely difficult to make friends, keep a job and has always had relationships with girls but when they end he gets depressed and suicidal.

Last year he revealed he has gender dysmorphia since having counselling sessions after when a psychologist suggested his failed relationships could be because he feels uncomfortable in his male role and I am concerned that this may be yet another obsession which will be irreversible if he does become a woman.  He has now been gioven the go-ahead to take hormones after 4 hours of specialist couselling and 1 seesion with a specialist psychiatrist.

Have any other parents been through this sort of thing or do they think I am just clutching at straws and just watch him go ahead?

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  • I've just found this forum.  My 23 year old  is living as a transman.  I can't begin to tell you how difficult this has all been.  As a young girl, she was different and found it difficult to fit in, especially with other girls.  She had a terrible time growing up but never showed any signs of not being ok with her gender. That was until her late teens. When she embarked on changing her gender, her clinic seemed to pass her for hormone treatment very quickly.  It has only been over the last couple of years that we have thought she has Aspergers but she doesn't agree with this.  It appears that other members of the family also have Aspergers.

    I worry that because she was depressed that she didn't fit in that she found (online) a reason why.  I do realise that some Aspergers traits are traditionally male but  maybe we need to help them feel at ease in their own skins, rather than changing their gender - in some cases at least.  Finally I find it disturbing that there are so few places where we can express our concerns regarding this.

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  • I've just found this forum.  My 23 year old  is living as a transman.  I can't begin to tell you how difficult this has all been.  As a young girl, she was different and found it difficult to fit in, especially with other girls.  She had a terrible time growing up but never showed any signs of not being ok with her gender. That was until her late teens. When she embarked on changing her gender, her clinic seemed to pass her for hormone treatment very quickly.  It has only been over the last couple of years that we have thought she has Aspergers but she doesn't agree with this.  It appears that other members of the family also have Aspergers.

    I worry that because she was depressed that she didn't fit in that she found (online) a reason why.  I do realise that some Aspergers traits are traditionally male but  maybe we need to help them feel at ease in their own skins, rather than changing their gender - in some cases at least.  Finally I find it disturbing that there are so few places where we can express our concerns regarding this.

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