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aspergers and gender dysmorphia

markjulips

Hi - I have a 31year old son whom I think may have a mild form Aspergers but has never been diagnosed as it never entered our heads before my neice started having "problems" with her young son and he was diagnosed with autism (which made us do a lot of reading and research with her).  My son has an extremely high IQ and always been good at mathematics and computer programming and has always had obsessions in the past which have always fizzled out when he finds another.  He finds it extremely difficult to make friends, keep a job and has always had relationships with girls but when they end he gets depressed and suicidal.

Last year he revealed he has gender dysmorphia since having counselling sessions after when a psychologist suggested his failed relationships could be because he feels uncomfortable in his male role and I am concerned that this may be yet another obsession which will be irreversible if he does become a woman.  He has now been gioven the go-ahead to take hormones after 4 hours of specialist couselling and 1 seesion with a specialist psychiatrist.

Have any other parents been through this sort of thing or do they think I am just clutching at straws and just watch him go ahead?

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  • Hi there...I am in canada and my 21 y.o. son sounds sooo much like your son - he 'thought' he was transgender a couple of years ago and was even diagnosed, put on hormone treatment. My husband and I supported him - it was all we knew to do. However, after nearly a year on hormone therapy, dressing as a woman ( he too is not an attractive woman!) he abruptly gave it up saying it was all a mistake. I am in the process of trying to get him tested for aspergers...have thought for many years that he has autism. Our son is also veryyyy intelligent...I thought at times this was the case for his 'oddness' ( for lack of a better term)...he is really a wonderful 'kid'. After much research my conclusion is that the transgender 'obsession' was just that - another one of his obsessions...that ended. Don't get me wrong...we supported his decision, and accepted the psychologists diagnosis of transgender...but always knew that it didn't really fit at all. It is only now starting to make a bit of sense. From what I've read people with aspergers are much more likely to have gender identity issues - who knew?

    I'd really like to talk to you if you are still online, get this message. We seem to be dealing with very similar issues. I know your post was a year ago - I hope you will email me...new to this board so don't know if my email shows up...I will check back to this post if I don't hear from you  :)

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  • Hi there...I am in canada and my 21 y.o. son sounds sooo much like your son - he 'thought' he was transgender a couple of years ago and was even diagnosed, put on hormone treatment. My husband and I supported him - it was all we knew to do. However, after nearly a year on hormone therapy, dressing as a woman ( he too is not an attractive woman!) he abruptly gave it up saying it was all a mistake. I am in the process of trying to get him tested for aspergers...have thought for many years that he has autism. Our son is also veryyyy intelligent...I thought at times this was the case for his 'oddness' ( for lack of a better term)...he is really a wonderful 'kid'. After much research my conclusion is that the transgender 'obsession' was just that - another one of his obsessions...that ended. Don't get me wrong...we supported his decision, and accepted the psychologists diagnosis of transgender...but always knew that it didn't really fit at all. It is only now starting to make a bit of sense. From what I've read people with aspergers are much more likely to have gender identity issues - who knew?

    I'd really like to talk to you if you are still online, get this message. We seem to be dealing with very similar issues. I know your post was a year ago - I hope you will email me...new to this board so don't know if my email shows up...I will check back to this post if I don't hear from you  :)

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