Hi,
First time poster, Long time lurker.
In February of this year my son following a series of incidents and problems at school was given a permanent exclusion. In the months prior we have had suspensions and similar and jokingly expected this even with an ECHP taking place.
The ECHP was never given time to work and was also very in accurate (child may have coeliac's disease as he is slim and pale, Child may have bad Eyesite and hearing. None of which is true)
We have in the 2 years prior had a number of conversations with the school as we did feel our son had an SEN and agreed with the SEN lead who said lets look at this closely. To the point at which it was advised that even before we got a full AUD w/PDA diagnosis, I attend a day for parents of children with SEN needs. I attended and PDA was discussed and it was about the most accurate description of my son ever.
Anyway, along with that we were told the he was aggressive and violent and talks about gun play and killing, to which we responded "cant be learned at home as we do closely monitor his input as we do know his way of thinking" we were told that his behaviour starts at home and must be on us. It really and truly isn't.
Our son is a mimic he is easily lead and at 5/6/7 this is only going to be the case when in a new setting. So all of the actions he picked up because of how he functions he would do that when its not appropriate or in class time etc. He could not regulate or manage the social side of this.
The other note on the school is that since the PEX we have been informed that other children when reports have been made of bad behavior these have been ignored due to previous issues. I wish I could dig more but cant as we dont go to the school so its hearsay.
ANYWAY. Sorry for rambling im a rather fed up parent.
I went through the 2 appeal process and both times the panel agreed with the school. Even when a full diagnosis of AUD and ADHD and PDA was mentioned it didnt sway them. The way in which local schools and all those on the panel closed ranks to back one head was scary tbh.
SO ANYWAY. AGAIN sorry for the rambling as I am the ADHD parent.
My son is school less and im fighting the panel who do school allocation and Local auth and another ECHP report and thats mostly based on the bad schools PEX documents.
Anyone else been through similar or the same. Im losing my patience and I have written the same emails 1000 times it seems now.
Sorry for going on. Maybe I just need to get this off my chest.