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8yr old daughter

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My 8 yr old got diagnosed with autism when she was 3 , she has limited speech doesnt speak sentences just words she can say stuff like i want drink and dont like it , but what im struggling with recently is her behaviour she will slap her head , headbut floor walls , if she cant get her own way or if i say no to her she has started becoming obsessed with wanting to take her cover and 2 favourite toys upstairs in her brothers room she wants to be up there 24/7 she cannot be left alone as doesnt understand dangers e.g- window safety , toilets shel squirt a tube of toothpaste out all over mirrors or anything puts a full toilet roll down toilet if i want to sit downstairs i tell her no and shel cry scream hit head lay on floor crying for over a hour this is affecting family now as i have 2 other sons 14 and 6 does anyone have advice?? Has anyone experienced controlling behaviour as this is what i think she is doing

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  • Oh goodness. The area in the brain connected to verbal communication is linked to the same area for motor function in autistics. It doesn't sound in the least like controlling but unmet desire, extreme frustration with not having personal agency and feeling overwhelmed from the lack of ability to function like 'everyone else'. She sounds unhappy. Potentially, misrepresented - we all desperately need our parents to believe us.

    I'll have a think for some ideas and elaborate more, but our Montropic https://monotropism.org/ natural state, which is a different kind of 'brain wiring' allowing for a better function in flow-state, can often mean we thrive with uninterrupted space on our own. And when this isn't something we're afforded, we can feel robbed and depleted of a sense of self. 

    Obviously we need to learn 24/7 is not a good solo existence, but time alone engaging in a safe sensory environment can help us grow into our selves and sometimes it's just this time alone needed which can help us grow what we are talented at. 

    I would perform a search on "difficulty with proprioception". 

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  • Oh goodness. The area in the brain connected to verbal communication is linked to the same area for motor function in autistics. It doesn't sound in the least like controlling but unmet desire, extreme frustration with not having personal agency and feeling overwhelmed from the lack of ability to function like 'everyone else'. She sounds unhappy. Potentially, misrepresented - we all desperately need our parents to believe us.

    I'll have a think for some ideas and elaborate more, but our Montropic https://monotropism.org/ natural state, which is a different kind of 'brain wiring' allowing for a better function in flow-state, can often mean we thrive with uninterrupted space on our own. And when this isn't something we're afforded, we can feel robbed and depleted of a sense of self. 

    Obviously we need to learn 24/7 is not a good solo existence, but time alone engaging in a safe sensory environment can help us grow into our selves and sometimes it's just this time alone needed which can help us grow what we are talented at. 

    I would perform a search on "difficulty with proprioception". 

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