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Needing help, just need to chat about ny son,

5ammy

Hi My son is 4, he is the youngest of 3 boys he also has a younger sister.

He has always been very different from the others needing routine being very angry, very little emotion.

But he is very able and you could sit next to him and chat and you really would not realise, his issues.

I am worried that the people diagnosing him, might miss it also, he is very suttle in his behavior until he is comfortable with his surrondings and with others around him.

But its then when his aggression start, this is usualy contained in the house but at times of shifting set at friends houses this has shown its face, even with routine through the day.

I am a full time working Mum and my husband has had to become a stay at home daddy as I really dont know how to deal with him, it really makes me cry.

When its my day off he wont let me took him in bed unless he says, as its not my job as he says, it will always end with me having to walk away as this just hightens he anxietys and then his aggression. what can I do when I speak to peolpe they look at me as if to say yes what ever, due to them only seing the nice side as he is not familiar with them and hasnt as yet attacted a stranger. he is very normal but so not.

love him to bits, and cuddle my others each night I get home and wish he woulld let me without him becoming anxious and hitting me.

Cheers

Sam

  • Yes he is at nursery, and he has been at pre school since he was 1,1/2, as that was when noticed something not quite right. and thought he must have been bored.

    Yes he has alsways been good at pre school but he only went 2 days for 6 hours.

    I did speek to his teacher at the school he attends now and aired my concerns that with him being at school for more days that this may filter into school, she shrugged it off.

    then lsst week 3 days in row his closest friend 3 days in a row he has been there 8 weeks ish, honeymoon period over I think. Teacher said he might be tierd rrrrrrr, just why do they always think they know best.

    Sam

  • As long as you get someone that is very experienced in diagnosing ASCs you shouldn't have any need to worry.

    You may want to remind them that any behaviour outside of home doesn't necessarily display the range of his behaviours, like the difference in many ASC children between school and home, as they tend to hold it in through anxiety and inhibitions and release it at home where they feel safe.

    The use clinical tools to score behaviours although these aren't always reliable and what is more important is a multi-disciplinary team assessing all aspects of his development and behaviour.

    I would also agree that videoing his behaviour will be very helpful to the process.

  • Hi - you could take videos of his behaviour at home to show the professionals who are diagnosing him, you/your husband, cd also keep a diary.  He is used to a routine + certain people doing certain things.  When that changes it makes him anxious + he reacts the way he does. He may have everyone in compartments, so daddy does this,mummy does that etc.  Then if that changes he'll react against it. If you haven't have a look around the site via the home pg.  Loads of info which may help. Also lots of info in the posts.  Is he at nursery school - how's he doing there - got enough support?  Children can keep their stress in at school sometimes + then let it out at home.