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Am I just doing everything wrong?

AbC123


Just after some advice really.
We had an awful day with my son yesterday.
I had the sprinkler out and my daughter jumped on the hose and it sprayed high. My son got wet.
He wanted to use the sprinkler
So it seemed OK. He was laughing, then a flick of a switch
He absolutely lost it! By getting wet.
To an extent I have not seen before.
He absolutely trashed the garden, he broke the hose and launched every thing he could
The green bins and all the toys (little tykes cars)
He ripped the swing ball out that is so stuck in the hard mud, he just threw everything, including a filled water tray (so heavy)and then threw things at me that were hard.
I let him carry on until he threw things at me.
Then I carried him inside. This has put my back out.
I just honestly don't know if I handled this situation correctly.
Could I have done better?
He totally lost it.
No treasure box would work
I couldn't reason with him. He hid under the trampoline for 40 mins screaming.
I just need advice that what I do is correct? And if not what on earth can I do in these situations? Today I have felt exhausted and just a total awful mum, all day.
I don't know how to help this huge meltdowns and I just think I must be doing everything wrong.
Thank you so much for reading 

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  • To try to make sense of what set this off, try writing down all the things that happened in the run up to this event where he was involved.

    The getting wet part was probably the straw that broke the camels back, so looking at what was going on to him, and in the environment and discussions is a good way to start looking for common ground when it happens again.

    It may be just his sister causing his anticipated fun to make him wet, or the water going up his nose if he really hate that. Maybe there is something happening tomorrow he was anxious about and this set him off, or maybe he had something different to eat that he is having a reaction to you cannot see.

    Build the evidence then get all Sherlock on it is my recommendation, and maybe agree ground roles on violence so you can step in sooner in future to put him in some sort of timeout until he calms down.

  • in reply to Iain

    These are really good points.  

    It's hard as he is adamant things happen in the day, when they haven't happened. So to get stories accurate is really hard. 

    Thank you so much for your ideas x

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