Am I just doing everything wrong?

I did a little digging in my library and found the following tips from the book

The Red Beast - Controlling Anger in Children With Asperger's Syndrome (2008)

There are tips on how to deal with a child who has gone into rage mode (or become what they call the Red Beast):

Conduct an ABC of behaviour (Antecedent, Behaviour, Consequence) to determine if you can pinpoint any flash points, so that these can be avoided.

Confront the child using minimal language. Do not ask questions or insist on an apology. These issues are best dealt with during circle time and certainly when the child is calm

Ensure the child knows where he or she can go and who to approach if they feel out of control.

Remain calm and dispassionate at all times. You may need to practise this!

Use soothing music and eye masks. (Sometimes covering the eyes briefly when children are engaged in aggressive situations like hair pulling can help to dispel the violence by disorientating them.)

Provide the child with foods to eat that will replenish blood sugar levels, for example grapes.

Give the child foot massages. (Often it is necessary to remove shoes in the event of kicking so this is a good way to reintroduce the shoes.)

Look at the situation during circle time, use puppets to depersonalize the event and ask the children to think up alternative solutions. You will be surprised at how the culprit often has the best ideas!

Give the child physical jobs like shredding paper, ripping up old material, popping the bubbles on bubble wrap.

Put together a Red Beast Box that includes a stress ball, eye masks, bubble wrap, relaxation CDs, a scented pillow (lavender), small night lights to use if you like the room to be darkened during relaxation times, a bottle of still water, foods to replenish blood sugar like raisins or grapes.

If all else fails, use the technique on yourself!

Hopefully something from this list will help if it happens again.

I did a little digging in my library and found the following tips from the book

The Red Beast - Controlling Anger in Children With Asperger's Syndrome (2008)

There are tips on how to deal with a child who has gone into rage mode (or become what they call the Red Beast):

Conduct an ABC of behaviour (Antecedent, Behaviour, Consequence) to determine if you can pinpoint any flash points, so that these can be avoided.

Confront the child using minimal language. Do not ask questions or insist on an apology. These issues are best dealt with during circle time and certainly when the child is calm

Ensure the child knows where he or she can go and who to approach if they feel out of control.

Remain calm and dispassionate at all times. You may need to practise this!

Use soothing music and eye masks. (Sometimes covering the eyes briefly when children are engaged in aggressive situations like hair pulling can help to dispel the violence by disorientating them.)

Provide the child with foods to eat that will replenish blood sugar levels, for example grapes.

Give the child foot massages. (Often it is necessary to remove shoes in the event of kicking so this is a good way to reintroduce the shoes.)

Look at the situation during circle time, use puppets to depersonalize the event and ask the children to think up alternative solutions. You will be surprised at how the culprit often has the best ideas!

Give the child physical jobs like shredding paper, ripping up old material, popping the bubbles on bubble wrap.

Put together a Red Beast Box that includes a stress ball, eye masks, bubble wrap, relaxation CDs, a scented pillow (lavender), small night lights to use if you like the room to be darkened during relaxation times, a bottle of still water, foods to replenish blood sugar like raisins or grapes.

If all else fails, use the technique on yourself!

Hopefully something from this list will help if it happens again.

Thank you. 

I didn't think about grapes after. He just gets so exhausted. But never says he's hungry. 

I will have to invest in this book. 

Thanks for taking time to reply x