Outbursts to the word no or anything that means no

I've just heard from another mum whose son is acting similar. After a very long conversation, as she was looking into ABA and the clinic was pushing to diagnose high functioning Autism, I asked if anyone suggest ADHD might be possible. These sorts of outbursts and extreme impulsivity with a decent command of language might be an indicator. But there are so many things I don't know in this scenario.

There is a lot of misdiagnosing between Autism and ADHD as they share 2 fundamentally similar traits/neurology: Monotropism and an inability to dull the senses. But with ADHD there is a heightened social anxiety. 

I guess the question is if he's familiar with how these freeze? Has he experienced the process before? When there is a sort of fixation on a thing (ice pops), then setting a timer and also working with an Analogue Clock, which a child can watch as it moves forward with time is useful. Watching a video on how freezing works (this can be fascinating for an Autistic child) and checking as they go along. Giving them a very specific task in the mean time. Maybe you could involve him in the process of making ice even. When a child is already in a state of overwhelm, though, this is a potential problem - at least the opening up of things leading to despair and confusion which might prompt to try again, creating more confusion. Especially if they're aware they have these difficulties or disabilities and have been told in the past to keep trying. I can see how the ice pop situation might happen.

When a child is at the height of this kind of confusion and frustration, it can be important to decompress the situation fast, because any child in that state when prompted, can spiral into further rage. One solution my grandmother had given me was to always redirect, never say no unless it is of grave consequence, because then No means something very specific. This can be hard to learn actually, because in order to help them thrive, they need to understand consequence while it not devaluing their being. 

Really, nothing can be learned in a heightened state of frustration. For any abnormal situation (say he's never opened all the ice pops before like this), if you can, first validate him and help him out of the confusion and frustration long before issuing a consequence. "I want you to have these - that's why I bought them. Perhaps you can help me find a solution". First help him calm down. It's just an ice pop. Unfortunately, this society leaves us little time to really help our younglings into life. Steal what you can! Maybe turn a moment like this into a laugh - him helping push the liquid into ice cube trays or paper cups. The colours turning brown... 

I've just heard from another mum whose son is acting similar. After a very long conversation, as she was looking into ABA and the clinic was pushing to diagnose high functioning Autism, I asked if anyone suggest ADHD might be possible. These sorts of outbursts and extreme impulsivity with a decent command of language might be an indicator. But there are so many things I don't know in this scenario.

There is a lot of misdiagnosing between Autism and ADHD as they share 2 fundamentally similar traits/neurology: Monotropism and an inability to dull the senses. But with ADHD there is a heightened social anxiety. 

I guess the question is if he's familiar with how these freeze? Has he experienced the process before? When there is a sort of fixation on a thing (ice pops), then setting a timer and also working with an Analogue Clock, which a child can watch as it moves forward with time is useful. Watching a video on how freezing works (this can be fascinating for an Autistic child) and checking as they go along. Giving them a very specific task in the mean time. Maybe you could involve him in the process of making ice even. When a child is already in a state of overwhelm, though, this is a potential problem - at least the opening up of things leading to despair and confusion which might prompt to try again, creating more confusion. Especially if they're aware they have these difficulties or disabilities and have been told in the past to keep trying. I can see how the ice pop situation might happen.

When a child is at the height of this kind of confusion and frustration, it can be important to decompress the situation fast, because any child in that state when prompted, can spiral into further rage. One solution my grandmother had given me was to always redirect, never say no unless it is of grave consequence, because then No means something very specific. This can be hard to learn actually, because in order to help them thrive, they need to understand consequence while it not devaluing their being. 

Really, nothing can be learned in a heightened state of frustration. For any abnormal situation (say he's never opened all the ice pops before like this), if you can, first validate him and help him out of the confusion and frustration long before issuing a consequence. "I want you to have these - that's why I bought them. Perhaps you can help me find a solution". First help him calm down. It's just an ice pop. Unfortunately, this society leaves us little time to really help our younglings into life. Steal what you can! Maybe turn a moment like this into a laugh - him helping push the liquid into ice cube trays or paper cups. The colours turning brown...