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Poor self image

Merida

Has anyone got any ideas or advice about how I can help my daughter with her poor self image. She's a teenager and really concerned about how she looks. She won't leave the house because she doesn't want to be seen. She won't talk to a counsellor and tells me that I am her counsellor. I have bought lots of self help books and suggested websites but she says that those make her cringe. 

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  • Maybe ask her what she would change about her appearance if she could? She might have specific things that could be easily changed (hair length/ style/ colour etc). Maybe she doesn’t even know exactly what it is about her appearance that she doesn’t like, and asking her to break down such a big statement down might either result in more specifics that you can address with her, or she might realise if there is nothing specific that it is actually a more fundamental ‘uncomfortable’ feeling she has in her own skin. In this care, this might be more of a professional help issue. 

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  • Maybe ask her what she would change about her appearance if she could? She might have specific things that could be easily changed (hair length/ style/ colour etc). Maybe she doesn’t even know exactly what it is about her appearance that she doesn’t like, and asking her to break down such a big statement down might either result in more specifics that you can address with her, or she might realise if there is nothing specific that it is actually a more fundamental ‘uncomfortable’ feeling she has in her own skin. In this care, this might be more of a professional help issue. 

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