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Feeling sad after a good day

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Confused mother here. This has been an ongoing issue for ages but now school is really good for her and making her happy (they have done a lot to put things in place which are now helping massively). Today hours after she came home from school, she was crying and said its because she feels sad. I asked why and she replied, because I had a good day at school.

She has said in the past that she hates being happy. She says she's always relaxed, chilled and calm rather than happy. Does anyone get this. No one else in the family gets this so hoping someone can give us tips on how to help. Last time she felt like this wasn't too long ago but she was then really low for a couple of weeks. But today she has cheered up and is excited for tomorrow.

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  • She's sad because the happiness is heartbreakingly fleeting, she's become used to an emotional status quo and being happy means innevitably at some point she will stop being happy either because it just wears off or something bad happens to ruin it.
    I was an abused child and got so used to things being crap I never trusted it when I had a good day it felt like being led into a false sense of security so that it could be ruined for me, because being traumatised once isn't enough when you live with your abuser (not saying this dynamic is you, just saying I recognise the simillar emotional mechanics behind it. Probably because your daughter is used to school being a daily crap experience. Sorry not pulling punches on the language use here because I'm on my last spoon today.)

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  • She's sad because the happiness is heartbreakingly fleeting, she's become used to an emotional status quo and being happy means innevitably at some point she will stop being happy either because it just wears off or something bad happens to ruin it.
    I was an abused child and got so used to things being crap I never trusted it when I had a good day it felt like being led into a false sense of security so that it could be ruined for me, because being traumatised once isn't enough when you live with your abuser (not saying this dynamic is you, just saying I recognise the simillar emotional mechanics behind it. Probably because your daughter is used to school being a daily crap experience. Sorry not pulling punches on the language use here because I'm on my last spoon today.)

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