Advice needed

Hi, we are still waiting for a diagnosis of autism for our ten year old son. He has been masking for some years and has been treated for mental health issues but over the last year, certain behaviours have become more and more apparent. So we sent off for assessments. 
We recently had a mental health assessment with CAHMS and were surprised when the counsellor came out with the fact that he might be autistic in front of our son. We had still been gently preparing him but she just came out with and he said:”I could be autistic?” And she said yes, but it could also be other things, like adhd etc He was absolutely fine with it and took it really well initially. 
However, since that appointment he just seems to be really struggling (meltdowns, etc) we don’t know whether this is him trying to deal with it, or if he is now able to be who he really is.

CAHMS sent us on our way with no further help. All we have is the internet to help us and we are struggling. Has anyone else experienced this? 

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  • So sorry for the late reply! I thought I would get an email if someone responded.

    The school suggested we refer him, which we did back in July 2022. So it was a self-referral by parents to CAHMS. We’ve seen more and more behaviours emerging over time.

    During the CAHMS assessment the counsellor said that we were definitely “looking at a neurodivergent brain here” and her report has described him as a ten year old boy with autistic traits and an anxious presentation. He already had a years CBT through Barnardo’s, so CAHMS say they can’t do anything, which is why there is no further help.

    We have to wait on the assessment. Although I imagine even if/when he gets diagnosed it’s not going to change anything. We just have to try to learn how to parent an autistic child and it seems the internet is the only way to do that! 

    Thanks so much for your response.