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leolibramum

At the minute i feel like the worst parent on the planet. My 11 year old has re-started having melt downs. I love him to bits but i have to admit i dread him coming in from school and even more so the weekends. The slightest thing seems to set him off and i have to admit it is getting worse. The rule of the house is "if he is happy and getting what he wants everything is fine". I have family but am having the issue of my parents tell me i make things worse by ignoring his outbursts. I have been told i am ruining his life by getting him assessed, but as his mum i feel i have to do everything i can do to help him in the future. any advice would be greatfully accepted

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  • thank you all for your comments. As far as keeping him happy i am like any parent and want to see him happy. however i will not bend over backwards to do so. harsh i know but he can't have what he wants when he wants it. and that is part of the problem. i feel it is like havng a 2 year old in an 11 year old boy as far as this goes. i am trying to teach him that there are consequeces to his actions. if he does something that is behaviour that is unacceptable in my eyes he looses a privelage ie his time on the xbox. he accepts this for half the day and thinks that is good enough. when he has been told that it is gone all day. to which the melt downs begin, but i can't give in as that tells him he is in charge of the situation when clearly he is not.

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  • thank you all for your comments. As far as keeping him happy i am like any parent and want to see him happy. however i will not bend over backwards to do so. harsh i know but he can't have what he wants when he wants it. and that is part of the problem. i feel it is like havng a 2 year old in an 11 year old boy as far as this goes. i am trying to teach him that there are consequeces to his actions. if he does something that is behaviour that is unacceptable in my eyes he looses a privelage ie his time on the xbox. he accepts this for half the day and thinks that is good enough. when he has been told that it is gone all day. to which the melt downs begin, but i can't give in as that tells him he is in charge of the situation when clearly he is not.

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