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How to prepare child for parents going on holiday alone

NAS79621

My son is asd and highly anxious with seperstion anxiety too . 

Myself and my husband are off on a once on a life time honeymoon for 10 nights in a couple of weeks , my son will be at his grandparents .

I haven't mentioned it yet as I know the worrying he will do from now until we're back again , but I feel I also need to prepare him . 

Tips and advice on how to do this would be great , in away that won't cause lots of distress . 

 I've already cried myself a million times at the guilt of leaving him.  

Thanks in advance 

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  • Don't feel guilty for needing a break. Raising kids is a full time job with no sick days. Besides honeymoons are usually one off things so ofc you want to go.

    NAS79621 said:
    seperstion anxiety too

    I was gonna ask if that's supposed to be superstitious, or separation anxiety but nvm I will answer for both:

    Maybe find out what he's really afraid of, and then physically negate it or talk the fear about it down, if it's "I need x, y, and z while you are away" then arm the grandparents to be able to cope with it, if it's "what if the plane crashes" then explain actual statistics of this and why it is unlikely etc.
    But you probably need to give him at least a weeks notice to ruminate on it and come to terms with it and then physically prepare for it. If he's worried about not having certain comforts from home let him pack a spare suitcase with stuff that makes him feel better to take with him if you have one extra.

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  • Don't feel guilty for needing a break. Raising kids is a full time job with no sick days. Besides honeymoons are usually one off things so ofc you want to go.

    NAS79621 said:
    seperstion anxiety too

    I was gonna ask if that's supposed to be superstitious, or separation anxiety but nvm I will answer for both:

    Maybe find out what he's really afraid of, and then physically negate it or talk the fear about it down, if it's "I need x, y, and z while you are away" then arm the grandparents to be able to cope with it, if it's "what if the plane crashes" then explain actual statistics of this and why it is unlikely etc.
    But you probably need to give him at least a weeks notice to ruminate on it and come to terms with it and then physically prepare for it. If he's worried about not having certain comforts from home let him pack a spare suitcase with stuff that makes him feel better to take with him if you have one extra.

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