Hating the sound of your own voice - will you join me?

So, I've got to admit the recent thread about hating the sound of your own voice really touched a nerve with me. The sound of my voice when played back to me is something that has made me cringe since childhood, a good 40+ years ago. When I hear it back I don't just feel it sounds different, in my mind I think it sounds horrendously bad and I would say I've avoided talking because of this thought many times. So, after reading the near universal comments on here that everyone seems to hate the sound of their voice when played back, it got me thinking....maybe my thought is wrong, maybe my voice is not bad after all...maybe I just need to get used to hearing it played back, some kind of exposure therapy. So my plan is to record myself talking every day for say, 7 days, and see if my reaction to my voice becomes more bearable the more I hear it. I know this sounds terrible, but this is my invite to all who hate their voice, join me in this experiment, and post your thoughts. any takers? If not, I may just post my own results back here anyway. 

Parents
  • I have the same experience, but to be honest I reached the age of forty myself 17 years ago and my whole attitude toward caring what anyone else thought of me changed and I became myself. Like me or loathe me, I don't care. I treat people with respect and do my best each day, I sing if I feel like it and I still don't like my own voice, but it's mine and it's me!

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  • I have the same experience, but to be honest I reached the age of forty myself 17 years ago and my whole attitude toward caring what anyone else thought of me changed and I became myself. Like me or loathe me, I don't care. I treat people with respect and do my best each day, I sing if I feel like it and I still don't like my own voice, but it's mine and it's me!

Children
  • It's great you have reached that point in life about not caring what others think. I feel I'm starting to get towards that point after many years of worrying about saying or doing the wrong thing. I think my recent diagnosis has made me look through a new lens at my life (I know this is a bit of a cliche) but I'm definitely seeing things differently since finding out I'm Autistic. Hopefully my new autistic identity will continue to grow and I will leave behind the old ways of trying to fit in and make sense of the NT world.