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NT daughter is starting to call her twin 'Naughty'

proud twin mummy
over 11 years ago

Hello all,

I have 4 year old B/G twins. My daughter is NT, i would say some ''autistic traits'' but nothing that would affect her functioning, just quirks i guess. My son is being assesed for Autism (HF as he is verbal) however his behaviour is somewhat challenging and his twin sister has now realised there are differences and has begun to label him 'naughty'.

I find this quite upsetting and i would desperately like to explain to her they have differences but he is not naughty he just doesnt understand in the same way. To an older sibling i feel this would be a little easier to explain, but how do you explain to a child of the same age?

I try to treat them very fairly and equally but this is an impossible task as their needs are so very different! I have seen many a book but they all seem to start with ''my brother is special''. My daughter would instantly take this as she is not and i just cant do that to her.

Any advice would be so gratefully received, thank you in advance xx

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  • over 11 years ago

    Thank you again, I did think you pushy to start with but now I do understand what you are saying. I will take some time out to observe my daughter for peace of mind. She does have strops sometimes when her lines are ruined but i do put that down to no different to when i make the beds 1000 times a day and they are unmade each time it annoys me too lol.

    Since this journey began I have found out some things about myself which make me feel better, I def have a sensory issue going on with sounds and things being and feeling right. It makes me feel better knowing there is a reason behind my inability to cope with persistant noises and tones. And my inability to stand still :-)

    I will keep all your advice fresh in my mind and like I say I will take some time out to observe her. Her school runs or is part of an autism awareness programme or campaign or similar so they should notice any difficulties and support her accordingly.

    Makes it difficult when the spectrum really is so broad, and why it makes it so hard to understand and then explain to others. Again thank you for your time :-)

     

     

     

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  • over 11 years ago

    Thank you again, I did think you pushy to start with but now I do understand what you are saying. I will take some time out to observe my daughter for peace of mind. She does have strops sometimes when her lines are ruined but i do put that down to no different to when i make the beds 1000 times a day and they are unmade each time it annoys me too lol.

    Since this journey began I have found out some things about myself which make me feel better, I def have a sensory issue going on with sounds and things being and feeling right. It makes me feel better knowing there is a reason behind my inability to cope with persistant noises and tones. And my inability to stand still :-)

    I will keep all your advice fresh in my mind and like I say I will take some time out to observe her. Her school runs or is part of an autism awareness programme or campaign or similar so they should notice any difficulties and support her accordingly.

    Makes it difficult when the spectrum really is so broad, and why it makes it so hard to understand and then explain to others. Again thank you for your time :-)

     

     

     

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