Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all,
I have 4 year old B/G twins. My daughter is NT, i would say some ''autistic traits'' but nothing that would affect her functioning, just quirks i guess. My son is being assesed for Autism (HF as he is verbal) however his behaviour is somewhat challenging and his twin sister has now realised there are differences and has begun to label him 'naughty'.
I find this quite upsetting and i would desperately like to explain to her they have differences but he is not naughty he just doesnt understand in the same way. To an older sibling i feel this would be a little easier to explain, but how do you explain to a child of the same age?
I try to treat them very fairly and equally but this is an impossible task as their needs are so very different! I have seen many a book but they all seem to start with ''my brother is special''. My daughter would instantly take this as she is not and i just cant do that to her.
Any advice would be so gratefully received, thank you in advance xx
Thank you intenseworld for you comment
I can say from the heart that my daughter is NT, I have no instinct which tells me otherwise. She has also developed absolutely typically all be it slightly delayed from being born at 29 weeks. She has eye contact, great verbal skills, expressive and understanding, very caring and desire to please others, has a great imagination, very flexible in thought, will initiate play with others and happy to play with others. Copes with changes to routines, has danger awareness and so on..............just a few quirky ways, for example she will stop randomly to lick a wall, she likes to line things up.
I do believe we all have these quirky ways but it does not affect her ability to function at all. Just little habits i guess.
Its good advice on how to deal with talking to her so thank you for that x