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My son hates school and it’s affecting his mental health

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Hi, my 10 year old son has struggled with school for a while now and it’s getting to the point where it is really effecting him. All he wants is to be home schooled. This is the last resort for me but I just feel guilty at not even considering this avenue because I just think it would isolate him and his anxietys would get worse. I just don’t know what to do? Is it really important to push him through mainstream school? Or be at home?. If he can’t cope, what’s more important your child’s well being or go through school and effecting your mental health 

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  • If his anxiety is due to the overwhelming sensory environment of school then it is likely to get worse the longer he is forced to attend. Sensory anxiety is not something he can push through or get used to, as some people seem to believe.

    The first step is to see what reasonable adjustments the school can make to make school more tolerable for him. Maybe staggering start times to avoid the noise, crowds and crushing in the corridors. A quiet room he can escape to when needed. Understanding and acceptance from teachers is vital. 

    Personally I found my school years to be traumatic and damaging. I started as a happy and enthusiastic child, very keen and willing to learn. I soon found the environment completely overwhelming and when I had meltdowns I was punished for my 'behaviour'. By the time I got halfway through secondary school I had become extremely anxious, selectively mute and school phobic.

    I strongly believe that I would have achieved more educationally and suffered far less damage if I had been home schooled.

  • in reply to Autonomistic

    Thankyou for your reply. He suffers massively with anxiety. 

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