Hello everyone, we are asking for help on behalf of the staff team and parents of a student.
This student is displaying some behaviour which is getting difficult to manage. The biggest issue is that she trusts very little staff, 5 max, therefore becomes unsettled when she doesn't have these staff. She is becoming controlling around this and is getting angry, sarcastic, and argumentative when she doesn't have the staff she trusts or can just tolerate. She is starting to make threats saying that after half term, if she doesn't get good staff and if her timetable isn't sorted out then we are going to have some serious issues. She says we don't care about what staff we give her and that we are setting her up to fail. We are giving her new staff and she agreed to this so she can hopefully build trust with these but it's not going well.
She is becoming verbally aggressive towards staff and the past couple of days she has become disruptive ripping off display boards and ripping them into tiny pieces and chucking it on the floor and refuses to clean up and says it's our fault for not giving her good staff. She locked herself into the sensory room today and blocked the door with a chair so it couldn't be opened and put a mat up at the window so we couldn't see in which she knows isn't allowed. She was swearing and kept referring to the trust issues and staff and the timetable. She has stopped opening up to us and will now just scream when things go wrong. We are losing trust and it's hard to gain back.
She is also blaming us for her actions. She will do something wrong and will say that maybe we should give her good staff then this wouldn't happen or that she wants to trust staff but how can she when we don't give her good staff. She knows we don't like it when she struggles so keeps saying that why give me rubbish staff if you know I'm going to struggle so obviously you don't care. Or it's, you know I've going to jump the fence or run off if I don't have good staff and that we'll have problems. Today she made the comment of, Well I'm sorry that I got upset and trashed the room because you gave me crap staff, in the most sarcastic way possible and gave us the worst look she has ever given us. She is starting to become very challenging. She is very rude and has a lot of attitude towards all staff now and we are getting worried where things are heading.
So if anyone has any ideas, please let us know. Thank you
UPDATE: Another tricky day today. She didn't like either staff again today and went to our local shopping centre and walked round then sat on a sofa there and refused to leave because she didn't want those staff members to take her home. She than ran away from staff and is a fast runner so we did lose sight of her therefore parents were called, and police were searching for her aswell as security in the shopping centre were keeping an eye out. After 2 hours we had sight of her and she was happy, dancing, skipping, singing whilst walking round the town. We gave her space and kept as much distance as we could and she was fine.
