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Seperation anxiety? Help

TJ

Hi, I wondered if anyone could offer some advice as I am at the end of my tether and feel I am going to lose it very soon. My 3.5yr old diagnosed with autism last year is getting more and more hard work. He used to be so good and would play happily whilst I got on with meals, housework etc but the last month, whenever I leave the room (eg to have a shower, wash up) he screams to high heaven, ends up sweating and blotchy. It is not just a tantrum he is so distressed and gets in a state. He loves being in the garden but now if I dont sit out there with him he screams, slams doors etc.  He cannot talk at all so I understand it is frustrating for him but I feel so down as I am on my own with him. I dread the start of every day because of this, I cant get ready for work and have given up trying to do anything. I have tried to just ignore him and let him cry it out but he is so distressed and he screams so hysterically I am sure my neighbours must think I am mistreating him.  I have tried to think what may have triggered this but cannot think, except he went to stay at his Dads at Easter and apparently woke up miserable the next morning there but this is the only thing I can think of. My patience wears thin sometimes as it is relentless, he starts preschool next week and I am so worried this is going to make him worse. On my days off we always do nice things and he is very good when we go out its just at home. I know it is hard when they cannot communicate, I have tried picture exchange but he can only do the basics.  I always tell him what I am going to do next so I dont just disappear from sight but this makes him worse. Do I just ignore his screams and walk out the room??? Please any suggestions would be gratefully received

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  • Hi Tj just read your latest post today,its sounds like your having such a hard time with your son at the moment. I wonder why he acts up with you but is good when your mum looks after him! It must be frustrating to you if people dont believe he is like that! How do you feel about having him in respite care for a little while just to give you a bit of a break from him? I dont mean it in a horrible way i just dont know how else to word it! As you say you have to cope with your job as well. It sounds like something is troubling him and is playing up with you as he thinks you wont tell him off. It also sounds as if he cant express himself to you altho he wants to. But you cant read his mind to kow what he wants. How do you feel about contacting childrens service that deals with autism? You could try to google it on the internet. Or what about social services or do you think thats not such a good idea? I wish i had more suggestions for you! Take care!

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  • Hi Tj just read your latest post today,its sounds like your having such a hard time with your son at the moment. I wonder why he acts up with you but is good when your mum looks after him! It must be frustrating to you if people dont believe he is like that! How do you feel about having him in respite care for a little while just to give you a bit of a break from him? I dont mean it in a horrible way i just dont know how else to word it! As you say you have to cope with your job as well. It sounds like something is troubling him and is playing up with you as he thinks you wont tell him off. It also sounds as if he cant express himself to you altho he wants to. But you cant read his mind to kow what he wants. How do you feel about contacting childrens service that deals with autism? You could try to google it on the internet. Or what about social services or do you think thats not such a good idea? I wish i had more suggestions for you! Take care!

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