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preparing for back to school

doodlebugs

hi everyone,

this is my first post on here & it looks like it may be a long one -sorry!

im a mum of 2, my 9 yr old son was diagnosed with autism in june - high end/aspergers.

its been a 2 year struggle to get to this point, ed psych didnt think he would get diagnosed, school didnt think he would either!!

 

anyways, he struggles socialy at school- he says he loves being in class learning, but hates the rest of it.

he goes to a small 60-70 pupil mainstream school & is achieving very well.

he has had many,many run ins with other kids- full on fights,kicking,punching, wrestling, name calling etc etc. he is usualy the main cause of fights as he wont let things go, if someone has wronged him ( in his eyes) he needs to get revenge.

i think half the problem is noise levels & he does complain about dinner hall being too noisy & sometimes classroom, breaktimes are also noisy & busy.

the school havnt realy had any suggestions about how to help him deal with these situations, other than to make him stay in ,missing breaks when he starts to get angry or annoy others- not realy helpfull to make him miss more time socialising!

he is now starting to worry about going back to school, he worrys about leaving me - always had a sort of seperation anxiety, he worrys about his class- same teacher,same room but will be sharing it with year 6 -about 10 kids. basicaly he worrys about the whole time there.

i know  that his behaviour is going to take a major dip when he starts back- the stress of school makes him so angry that home life can be hell to put up with.

he also has hypermobility - just diagnosed & his writing is appaling- the school have always nagged him to improve & do better but because of it he couldnt. he is waiting to see occupational health for an assesment but no idea how long that will take.

so, clever people that have gone through similar- any suggestions i can give to the school to help him? they seem to want me to come up with the answers to the problems.

also any ideas on helping him & reducing his stress levels?

many thanks in advance x

 

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  • It's a misnomer that high-functioning children don't need statementing.  My 8yo has a statement and she has HFA and was tested to have the verbal abilities of a 14-18 year old.

    School is about more than the academics.  If a child is having emotional problems, social problems and has sensory issues that all impacts their ability to learn and to be fully immersed in the curriculum.

    As a parent you can apply direct to the council yourself for a statement.  Look on www.ipsea.org.uk.  Bear in mind that it is getting harder and harder to get statements.  Our LA admitted that they discourage schools (don't let them discourage you!) and try to get the schools to use School Action or School action Plus where they can.  It's worth trying, if you are unsuccessful you can appeal.   If ultimately it fails and your son is not already on School Action or School Action Plus, you can ask for one of those from the school.

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  • It's a misnomer that high-functioning children don't need statementing.  My 8yo has a statement and she has HFA and was tested to have the verbal abilities of a 14-18 year old.

    School is about more than the academics.  If a child is having emotional problems, social problems and has sensory issues that all impacts their ability to learn and to be fully immersed in the curriculum.

    As a parent you can apply direct to the council yourself for a statement.  Look on www.ipsea.org.uk.  Bear in mind that it is getting harder and harder to get statements.  Our LA admitted that they discourage schools (don't let them discourage you!) and try to get the schools to use School Action or School action Plus where they can.  It's worth trying, if you are unsuccessful you can appeal.   If ultimately it fails and your son is not already on School Action or School Action Plus, you can ask for one of those from the school.

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