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12yo Daughter struggling with friendships

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Hi,

I have a 12yo daughter who has struggled with friendships since she was young she has diagnosed adhd and is mediacated for that, however I believe she is autistic more towards the HFA end of the spectrum and we have just started the process to get evidence for a referall , she just doesn’t seem to ‘fit in’ she is just about to start at the 3rd secondary school since September, she got really bullied at the first which started from conflicts with peers then she was actually beaten up so I removed her and the same issues persisted in the next school with a particular group of girls so they said she could not stay as she was on trial for a managed move, I am really apprehensive about the 3rd school.

when she meets someone she is intense and she goes from stranger to best friend in a day even if the other person doesn’t feel the same and she can sometimes keep texting the other person.

she also thinks that when people taunt her and are unkind she is friends with them even though they treat her that way it’s very distressing.

has anyone else had a similar experience or can give some advice, it’s making me very I’ll and I have no one to turn to for advice and the schools have been useless.

thanks

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  • Also, it sounds like your daughter struggles with boundaries and gauging social connections. I can also very much relate to this. I wish I had concrete advice to offer, but it's something I'm still struggling to learn at this stage. If there are groups for Autistic children and young people in your area, it might help if she can form connections with others whose thinking is more closely aligned with her own.

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  • Also, it sounds like your daughter struggles with boundaries and gauging social connections. I can also very much relate to this. I wish I had concrete advice to offer, but it's something I'm still struggling to learn at this stage. If there are groups for Autistic children and young people in your area, it might help if she can form connections with others whose thinking is more closely aligned with her own.

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  • in reply to sphynx

    Thank you for your reply, yes she does really struggle with boundaries and I think this is the main issue when trying to make friends, I just wish she could meet 1 person who was her best friend who she would always have by her side but sadly no one ever seems to stick.

    that’s a great idea I will look into it , that might just be what she needs.