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17 year old daughter stuck with no purpose and not open to any help - help!

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Our 17 year old daughter is really struggling to get any fulfilment out of school (very small A-level college - 2/3 kids per class) and we are desperate to find her anything through which she will feel purpose, vitality, aspiration, joy.  She is closed to any ideas or options posed, and resistant to therapies, coaching, CAHMS or any offers of making help available.  We need to find her an educational environment, vocation, or anything else through which she can find and accept her talents and build hope and purpose.  We feel stuck and helpless.

Any ideas/suggestions/thoughts gratefully received

Marc (father) 

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  • At that age, to make it through education I needed something to look forward to. I got no enjoyment from it and to this day I don’t know why I put myself through it. It wasn’t worth it. I got through it because I bought meet and greet tickets for a Shawn mendes concert. Joy It cost me a crazy amount of money. But it worked and I had a reason to be happy and to look ahead. So maybe plan something like a trip or holiday just to get through this year. Another idea would be to get her own pet, they really give you a sense of purpose and responsibility. Once this year of A levels is finished maybe look into a part time job and have a break from education altogether. If this is only her first year then I would seriously consider quitting now as there’s no benefit to seeing the year out.

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  • At that age, to make it through education I needed something to look forward to. I got no enjoyment from it and to this day I don’t know why I put myself through it. It wasn’t worth it. I got through it because I bought meet and greet tickets for a Shawn mendes concert. Joy It cost me a crazy amount of money. But it worked and I had a reason to be happy and to look ahead. So maybe plan something like a trip or holiday just to get through this year. Another idea would be to get her own pet, they really give you a sense of purpose and responsibility. Once this year of A levels is finished maybe look into a part time job and have a break from education altogether. If this is only her first year then I would seriously consider quitting now as there’s no benefit to seeing the year out.

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