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I need to get something off

JNJG1999

Okay where to start. I'm 23 and I dont have much, my mum abused me, dad is a mentally ill wreck who I never see (his mum raised me) I was diagnpsed with aspergers at 13. Which I doubt I do have it all. I think I might have BDP or PTSD

Growing up I never had any friends and I've been constantly surrounded by very old  people and young kids Never w ith people my own age,

I was 5 my best friend was born (our mums where childood friends.) He's now 18 and still in my life.

When I was 10 - 15 I used to play with him, look after him until his mum moved to chorley without telling me which drove me to depression and suicde attempts.

And the main point is that I can't get past it. I still want to have a little brother to take care of, I've tried to apply as a mentor to the bolton lads and girls club

but they said my mental health wasn't good enough. and I wanted to apply to health soical & childcare but my maths are bad

because of drugs my mum took when she was pregnant with me. I'm so sick of being alive, feeling infefior to people my own age because thye  don't believe my age (because I look way younger than my age.)  and unable to relate to them and I feel like I have no future. I have few friends no support no parental advice, protection or anything. I feel so scared and alone and I just had no idea anymore. What the hell do I do? it's htting me like a bomb how much i've missed out on, how i've never had a real life of developed an actual personailty I still feel like a scared litle boy most days. i'm so stuck!!

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  • I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m also 23, have mental health issues (due to bullying) and have had times where I have considered taking my life. I’m also often mistaken for being younger than I am. And have very few people my age to talk to. I can’t drive never had a boyfriend and feel incredibly inferior to people my age.

    When you really think about it our generation has been taken over by technology. and social media has meant that we are a lot harder on ourselves than previous generations. Because we are able to see how ‘fantastic’ other people’s lives seem and no matter what we try we can’t compete.

    So as hard as it is, I am trying not to compare my life to others my age because it’s unrealistic. The past 5 years of my life I have spent in a recovery mode almost like a coma and so really I’m about 17. Do the same for yourself minus years of your age depending on how much you think it’s impacted you. You won’t be so hard on yourself when you realise you are mentally a lot younger than your years. Maybe it’s why we look younger?

    I know you have said that you can’t be a mentor due to mental health. But could you try a different avenue?

    Have you thought about working with animals or maybe getting a pet. Maybe you could volunteer in a local pet shelter. Animals can be great companions and can give you a sense of purpose.

    what are your hobbies, what do you like doing? What have you always wanted to do? Maybe that can be a starting point.  Everyone has a purpose, you are on this earth for a reason, you just don’t know why yet.

    Please, please message me if you need someone to talk to. Everyone on here can be a source of support for you. I wish I could give you a hug. x

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  • I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m also 23, have mental health issues (due to bullying) and have had times where I have considered taking my life. I’m also often mistaken for being younger than I am. And have very few people my age to talk to. I can’t drive never had a boyfriend and feel incredibly inferior to people my age.

    When you really think about it our generation has been taken over by technology. and social media has meant that we are a lot harder on ourselves than previous generations. Because we are able to see how ‘fantastic’ other people’s lives seem and no matter what we try we can’t compete.

    So as hard as it is, I am trying not to compare my life to others my age because it’s unrealistic. The past 5 years of my life I have spent in a recovery mode almost like a coma and so really I’m about 17. Do the same for yourself minus years of your age depending on how much you think it’s impacted you. You won’t be so hard on yourself when you realise you are mentally a lot younger than your years. Maybe it’s why we look younger?

    I know you have said that you can’t be a mentor due to mental health. But could you try a different avenue?

    Have you thought about working with animals or maybe getting a pet. Maybe you could volunteer in a local pet shelter. Animals can be great companions and can give you a sense of purpose.

    what are your hobbies, what do you like doing? What have you always wanted to do? Maybe that can be a starting point.  Everyone has a purpose, you are on this earth for a reason, you just don’t know why yet.

    Please, please message me if you need someone to talk to. Everyone on here can be a source of support for you. I wish I could give you a hug. x

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