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Help needed with Teenage daughter

Nancy

I am new here and desperately looking for some advice. 
My youngest daughter is 17 and diagnosed autistic at 11. Education and support have been minimal. She missed about 3 years of secondary school and attended a specialist provision until this summer.

She started a local college in September and has struggled, but her attendance etc are slowly improving.

She made a group of friends about 6 months ago and has over this time spent an increasing amount of time with them. She has now had boyfriends, gone to parties and has drunk alcohol/vaped etc. I suppose a lot like most 17 year olds. She is out every single day, most often until late and refuses my advice on looking after herself.

She was on Sertraline for anxiety and depression which she chose to stop taking about 4 months ago and is increasingly struggling with massive anxiety. She wants something else to help her, but we’re waiting for her to be seen by CAMHS, which could be 6 months away.

She has a lot of anger, mostly aimed at me. Her resilience is almost non-existent anymore and she says she can’t stay in at home as it depresses her and make her want to self harm/kill herself.

I do not know what to do anymore and am now struggling to cope.

Any advice greatly appreciated. 

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  • I think she’s doing too much, thought she probably doesn’t see it like this. All teens have a full social life, and there’s a lot of fitting in to do. While it might be the done thing, and be fun, it is also taking a lot out of her, and she is becoming aggressive (meltdowns etc) as a result. 
    Could she be ADHD as well? Just asking, as if she ‘needs’ to always be out and about doing things, it could be. (Sounds like my daughter),

    There is concern over her age. By the time you get support, she could be 18, and then she’ll have to wait for the adult services to see her, which quite frankly is poor.

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  • I think she’s doing too much, thought she probably doesn’t see it like this. All teens have a full social life, and there’s a lot of fitting in to do. While it might be the done thing, and be fun, it is also taking a lot out of her, and she is becoming aggressive (meltdowns etc) as a result. 
    Could she be ADHD as well? Just asking, as if she ‘needs’ to always be out and about doing things, it could be. (Sounds like my daughter),

    There is concern over her age. By the time you get support, she could be 18, and then she’ll have to wait for the adult services to see her, which quite frankly is poor.

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