My son is autistic and struggling with school in fact he point blank refuses he’s only 8 but his anxiety is through the roof we have an idp in place and regulate meetings with the school who don’t listen to anything they just want him back in mainstream at any cost it’s not going to happen, so we got a plan in place have been doing it two weeks where we just try to get him through the door now because he went in once with me they’ve changed his plan to two days a week where today he will be forced to leave me we’ve had no time to plan or prepare him he’s not slept all night so anxious as his plans are now two hours a week he has to go to school without me ( no consistency we don’t even know which teacher will be meeting him, where he will go who will be with him he’s never had 1:1 support either) he is showing signs of dyslexia which they will not assess until he’s in high school iv spoken about designated provisions but they’ve talked me out of it told me that children is special schools don’t succeed n if I want him to have a future it’s not a good idea, I’m also going through a contact hearing where dad has had no contact through his choice for all his life and is now demanding contact he’s failed every drug test iv had my whole life invaded my children are becoming so anxious and do not want to see him due to all the past domestic abuse iv tried to explain everything and gave as much evidence in court as possible but the caffcass officer had already told me she’s decided on indirect contact ( that was before the drug tests came back positive) I know by law I do t have to engage with caffcass but I have done so that I don’t appear awkward as I’m also autistic this whole thing is really playing havoc with our routines our mental and physical health we have nobody that’s listening to us and feel like we have to adapt to suit the authorities requests rather than them adapting for my children it’s unfair it’s hard work and it’s making me poorly if anybody has advice on schools or courts please help I’m in court again next month and it’s really causing a huge negative impact on us and I don’t know how much fight iv got left in me
