School wants my little boy to go elsewhere with an arb, need some impartial views

just before we broke up from school my little boys teacher and seNCO asked me to go in and have a chat. He'si just turned 6 and has been in the school since nursery , he has been diagnosed with mild to moderate autism. He struggles with reading and writing , brilliant on a computer and not too bad with making friends and also does well with the structure of school....sorry went off on a tangent there but thought I'd add a bit of info about him. Anyway we have always said to the school he can be very aggressive at times   But we know what buttons not to press , I'm sure you know what I mean. So it has calmed down a lot over the last year. The school always said 'he's not showing any behaviour like that at school' etc but now they have had a few incidences , one being punching another child and the other not letting go of scissors and running off with them. He is statemented for 15 hours which we have always said is not enough but just get the response of , he won't get anymore hours. On his statement it clearly says he needs supervision in unstructured hours which he doesn't get as the teacher/senco say he needs the hours in class time. 

Anyway in the meeting they said that someone came into school, for another child may I add and commented that Luke, my son would get more from a school with a specialised arb uniT . I'm not very good standing up to teachers and always feel quite intimidated, so took there advise and started looking at other schools. My husband works full time so wasn't there at the meeting. he feels and now I do after alot of worrying ands stress that the school are sort of giving up on him. He is happy in the school and has friends and has a lovely support Teacher. They said that its within our rights to keep him in the school if we want to but feel he is not flourishing in the school and emphasised that he would be much better in school with more resources. 

We are going into school when term starts in September to discuss it more with them. But I just wondered if anyone has had any similar experiences and what was the outcome. Did you get any support from anyone proffessionals outside the school . 

it's not a good thing to have hanging for six weeks.

thanks for reading I know it's a lot of waffle lol

Kim x

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  • Thankyou moonraker and mum of 3 lots of good advice Thankyou . We have someone coming out from the autism team on Tuesday so I think. We are going to start there and then contact the la and discuss it with them, we suggested the shorter days to the school earlier on in the year and they just dismissed it by saying his funded hours might get cut.but it sounds like that could be an option. We have moved a few times over the last few years but we have kept in in that school so he didn't have disruption and upset moving schools,he is mostly happy to go to school and he knows everyone there, and is familiar with the school, staff and the routine. It's just sort of come from nowhere , other than these couple of incidences. I've spoken to a few of the other mums and they can't believe it , one of the comments was that some of the children without sen are worse than Luke and that we should fight it.so that's what we are going to do.wish us luck x

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  • Thankyou moonraker and mum of 3 lots of good advice Thankyou . We have someone coming out from the autism team on Tuesday so I think. We are going to start there and then contact the la and discuss it with them, we suggested the shorter days to the school earlier on in the year and they just dismissed it by saying his funded hours might get cut.but it sounds like that could be an option. We have moved a few times over the last few years but we have kept in in that school so he didn't have disruption and upset moving schools,he is mostly happy to go to school and he knows everyone there, and is familiar with the school, staff and the routine. It's just sort of come from nowhere , other than these couple of incidences. I've spoken to a few of the other mums and they can't believe it , one of the comments was that some of the children without sen are worse than Luke and that we should fight it.so that's what we are going to do.wish us luck x

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