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School wants my little boy to go elsewhere with an arb, need some impartial views

lukes mummy

just before we broke up from school my little boys teacher and seNCO asked me to go in and have a chat. He'si just turned 6 and has been in the school since nursery , he has been diagnosed with mild to moderate autism. He struggles with reading and writing , brilliant on a computer and not too bad with making friends and also does well with the structure of school....sorry went off on a tangent there but thought I'd add a bit of info about him. Anyway we have always said to the school he can be very aggressive at times   But we know what buttons not to press , I'm sure you know what I mean. So it has calmed down a lot over the last year. The school always said 'he's not showing any behaviour like that at school' etc but now they have had a few incidences , one being punching another child and the other not letting go of scissors and running off with them. He is statemented for 15 hours which we have always said is not enough but just get the response of , he won't get anymore hours. On his statement it clearly says he needs supervision in unstructured hours which he doesn't get as the teacher/senco say he needs the hours in class time. 

Anyway in the meeting they said that someone came into school, for another child may I add and commented that Luke, my son would get more from a school with a specialised arb uniT . I'm not very good standing up to teachers and always feel quite intimidated, so took there advise and started looking at other schools. My husband works full time so wasn't there at the meeting. he feels and now I do after alot of worrying ands stress that the school are sort of giving up on him. He is happy in the school and has friends and has a lovely support Teacher. They said that its within our rights to keep him in the school if we want to but feel he is not flourishing in the school and emphasised that he would be much better in school with more resources. 

We are going into school when term starts in September to discuss it more with them. But I just wondered if anyone has had any similar experiences and what was the outcome. Did you get any support from anyone proffessionals outside the school . 

it's not a good thing to have hanging for six weeks.

thanks for reading I know it's a lot of waffle lol

Kim x

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  • Thanks for the reply aspermum . Yes I contacted parent partnership and the lady I spoke to was really nice. She sent me a leaflet about questions to ask a new school but said to phone anytime for advise or support. 

    His school teacher and senco basicly said that he wasn't getting the support he needed and thought that he would do so much better in a school with an. Arb. They also said that  to move him now would be a lot easier than later down the line. 

    His statement has just been renewed and. It was just the same as last time, it says all the necessary requirements for him but these have not really been fully met especially the supervised unstructured times. This I feel is the time where other children wind him up or he gets stressed because he wants his own space or stressed because he can't join in etc. they also said that the area they take him to for quiet time is not good enough(medical room) but shouldn't they have thought about all this when he came from nursery, I'm probably going on again sorry .

    he is sat on a desk with another sen who he hates with a passion bless him and they know this but hit hey share the support teacher, again I don't think that is right . The other child has a statement and had funding for 25 hours and Luke has a statement for 15 hours and school said they were supplying funding for another 5 hours. Surely they should both have a support worker each so they get the attention they need.

    anyway Thankyou again and you've given me some good advice. I think I will contact the council and see what they have to say about it all.

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  • Thanks for the reply aspermum . Yes I contacted parent partnership and the lady I spoke to was really nice. She sent me a leaflet about questions to ask a new school but said to phone anytime for advise or support. 

    His school teacher and senco basicly said that he wasn't getting the support he needed and thought that he would do so much better in a school with an. Arb. They also said that  to move him now would be a lot easier than later down the line. 

    His statement has just been renewed and. It was just the same as last time, it says all the necessary requirements for him but these have not really been fully met especially the supervised unstructured times. This I feel is the time where other children wind him up or he gets stressed because he wants his own space or stressed because he can't join in etc. they also said that the area they take him to for quiet time is not good enough(medical room) but shouldn't they have thought about all this when he came from nursery, I'm probably going on again sorry .

    he is sat on a desk with another sen who he hates with a passion bless him and they know this but hit hey share the support teacher, again I don't think that is right . The other child has a statement and had funding for 25 hours and Luke has a statement for 15 hours and school said they were supplying funding for another 5 hours. Surely they should both have a support worker each so they get the attention they need.

    anyway Thankyou again and you've given me some good advice. I think I will contact the council and see what they have to say about it all.

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