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Struggling with outbursts

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Hi I not used this before but I'm really struggling with my 6yo son. After finally getting him into the right school that stress is starting to dial down however recently my son has started to become physically violent again. I don't know how to deal with it ii try my best to stay calm get him somewhere safe despite getting punched, scratched, headbutted and bitten. I know some of his triggers and I try to minimize any problems but sometimes it still happens. Punishment is hard because he doesn't care and will continue to do it again. The worst part is when I see him smiling as he is doing it which makes me think he knows what he is doing and he is enjoying it. 

Been waiting for CAHMs to pull there finger out but as the case is everywhere no staff, long waiting lists. Was told to go to a GP but I don't see what they can do. 

He has a club but only goes once a month or twice if I'm lucky. The last time he was at club it ended with another physical outburst. I don't want him to get banned as there are barely any other SEND clubs available. 

I talk to him about coping mechanisms and things to do when he gets angry but it just goes out the window.

I'm stressed about going to work, getting him ready for school and bedtimes.

Any advice would be much appreciated 

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  • In regard to the smiling, a lot of autistic people smile or laugh as a stress response. We express our emotions differently. Just because he's smiling doesn't mean he's enjoying it. He could be feeling very out of control.

    Rather than punishment for this behaviour (which could add to his stress) just focus on helping him find ways to calm down.  Try to notice the things that build up to it.  Keep talking to the school for help and advice.

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  • In regard to the smiling, a lot of autistic people smile or laugh as a stress response. We express our emotions differently. Just because he's smiling doesn't mean he's enjoying it. He could be feeling very out of control.

    Rather than punishment for this behaviour (which could add to his stress) just focus on helping him find ways to calm down.  Try to notice the things that build up to it.  Keep talking to the school for help and advice.

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  • in reply to Glitter

    Thank you for the advice I will definitely take this on board had another challenging day and he has been sent home from school. His current school is useless for advice just get shoved out the door and get sent exclusion paperwork. But he is leaving there just not soon enough. 

    It makes sense with the smiling during his outbursts it's just hard in the moment to remember and not hold it against him.

    Need to be more on it with the rewards, I'm not very organized and can be quite forgetful need to try harder to keep up with it.