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Discipline

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My son is 8 almost 9  . 

He  communicates very well, however we are finding he wants everything his way and if we try to explain to him or discipline  him,  he just doesn't get it and answers backs  to everything . 

It's like hes in charge and trying to tell us what to do . 

If we change the tone of our voice he thinks we are shouting .... he really struggles with school (mainstream) and when I ask what he doesn't like he says "there always shouting ) 

I always bring myself down thinking is it my parenting ,is he just spoilt or does he genuinely not get it , its so hard and when he gets into the answer back , meltdowns etc I feel judged from others that he just looks  naughty. 

I just feel  a bit stressed and at a loose end .

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  • My son will say things that suggest he thinks he is in charge. We often have to explain how things work. This can be due to a need to feel in control, thus reducing anxiety. Where possible giving choices or mentioning things in a way that do not sound like an order  helps here.

    He has had to learn that questioning something may not be appropriate in school. We have also asked them to explain any sanctions. Regarding shouting, my son perceives giving an instruction as shouting.

    When you are out if it is difficult, when my son was younger and he was struggling I used to say out loud about being sorry things were difficult, so others would know. I also changed things I did like having shopping delivered to reduce the stress or went early for clothes shopping which made it easier for him.

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  • My son will say things that suggest he thinks he is in charge. We often have to explain how things work. This can be due to a need to feel in control, thus reducing anxiety. Where possible giving choices or mentioning things in a way that do not sound like an order  helps here.

    He has had to learn that questioning something may not be appropriate in school. We have also asked them to explain any sanctions. Regarding shouting, my son perceives giving an instruction as shouting.

    When you are out if it is difficult, when my son was younger and he was struggling I used to say out loud about being sorry things were difficult, so others would know. I also changed things I did like having shopping delivered to reduce the stress or went early for clothes shopping which made it easier for him.

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