Social and Communication Disorder

Curious why he wasn't diagnosed Autistic? How the Neuro-Typical or NeuroNormative majority communicates, anyone who doesn't communicate the same is considered to have a "dis-ordering". I would argue, now nearing 50, I'm quite happy I don't communicate as the 'normal' public.

There are not-so-nuanced specific differences to how the hyper-analytical brain might perceive, reason, understand and then communicate. We are typically diagnosed autistic or 5 years ago and prior, Aspergers. 

This article describes how a different, intellectually stimulate brain might not be wired to receive and perceive the same: "intelligent people prefer to socialize less because they do not need that feeling of tribal belonging to find meaning in their lives. In fact, they're the ones who, when confronted with the choice between "belonging" and forging their own path, are more likely to choose to go their own way"  https://www.bustle.com/articles/163833-why-intelligent-people-prefer-to-socialize-less-than-others-according-to-science

Polar opposites bonding styles with communication: https://www.autismmatters.org.uk/blog/why-autism-and-small-talk-are-polar-opposites 

A few more:

https://autisticscienceperson.com/2021/11/28/why-social-skills-training-does-not-help-autistic-people/ 

https://www.tameri.com/wordpress/autisticme/2018/01/13/autistics-make-others-uncomfortable-instantly/

The reality is though, NeuroType to NeuroType, we understand each other and communicate perfectly well. No one needs 1k followers or friends, just a few tried and true ones and some ethics or rules of kindness to get along. Kids don't always quite understand this, but eventually they will. It's far better to be alone than with the wrong kind of "friends".

We're inherently different and what we value is innately different. Society has changed a great deal from valuing things which line up with Autistic default 'modes' such as dependability, reasonable-ness, sensibility and seeking understanding, as we are driven by continuity and resolve. The modern world appreciates using words with loose meaning at whatever cost to sell, tactics to dominate and win (see political figures), it literally rewards a lack of intentionality and extortion. Corporations don't have to adhere to accountability and as such, things are made to break. But it feeds a consumer model of new and exciting. And that doesn't speak 'dependable' to us.

Therefore, it's the whole dominant social milieu which has become much more different than it was even 100 years ago. If you help him focus on how to be trustworthy and find others who appreciate this value as much, he'll fare better in the long term. 

Curious why he wasn't diagnosed Autistic? How the Neuro-Typical or NeuroNormative majority communicates, anyone who doesn't communicate the same is considered to have a "dis-ordering". I would argue, now nearing 50, I'm quite happy I don't communicate as the 'normal' public.

There are not-so-nuanced specific differences to how the hyper-analytical brain might perceive, reason, understand and then communicate. We are typically diagnosed autistic or 5 years ago and prior, Aspergers. 

This article describes how a different, intellectually stimulate brain might not be wired to receive and perceive the same: "intelligent people prefer to socialize less because they do not need that feeling of tribal belonging to find meaning in their lives. In fact, they're the ones who, when confronted with the choice between "belonging" and forging their own path, are more likely to choose to go their own way"  https://www.bustle.com/articles/163833-why-intelligent-people-prefer-to-socialize-less-than-others-according-to-science

Polar opposites bonding styles with communication: https://www.autismmatters.org.uk/blog/why-autism-and-small-talk-are-polar-opposites 

A few more:

https://autisticscienceperson.com/2021/11/28/why-social-skills-training-does-not-help-autistic-people/ 

https://www.tameri.com/wordpress/autisticme/2018/01/13/autistics-make-others-uncomfortable-instantly/

The reality is though, NeuroType to NeuroType, we understand each other and communicate perfectly well. No one needs 1k followers or friends, just a few tried and true ones and some ethics or rules of kindness to get along. Kids don't always quite understand this, but eventually they will. It's far better to be alone than with the wrong kind of "friends".

We're inherently different and what we value is innately different. Society has changed a great deal from valuing things which line up with Autistic default 'modes' such as dependability, reasonable-ness, sensibility and seeking understanding, as we are driven by continuity and resolve. The modern world appreciates using words with loose meaning at whatever cost to sell, tactics to dominate and win (see political figures), it literally rewards a lack of intentionality and extortion. Corporations don't have to adhere to accountability and as such, things are made to break. But it feeds a consumer model of new and exciting. And that doesn't speak 'dependable' to us.

Therefore, it's the whole dominant social milieu which has become much more different than it was even 100 years ago. If you help him focus on how to be trustworthy and find others who appreciate this value as much, he'll fare better in the long term.