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Is my mother emotionally abusive?

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So today my mum lashed out at me again. I haven’t done anything wrong.
All i am doing is helping my mum and she does not appreciate that whatsoever. Me and my boyfriend have been cleaning cleaning everything and helping her do everything she wants to do in the house and she turned around today just randomly started flipping with me so I’m not sure what to do but I’ll try and put in as much detail the scenario that she put us in today.

We got a cat. We feed it, clean it and look after it everyday. And  we do this out of our own money. We are 17 and 18. Keep that in mind.

my mum has a puppy and a cat, both of which go outside.

Apparently its somehow our fault that our cat has fleas?

it doesn’t go outside.

And she keeps finding reasons to blame us.

And on top of that we only recently made the devision of rehoming our beloved cat. He’s literally our world but we have to get rid of him because we are struggling to care for him properly at this point. He got fleas from my mums cat and now my bedroom is completely infested with them.

She hasnt once offered to help.

i am autistic and struggle with my room from time to time but i cannot control that.

my mum randomly lashes out of nowhere at me and has done since i was born. She would never communicate with me beforehand. In fact, she’s completely fine with me before the lash-out.

This time she threatened to kick me out for a month and told my boyfriend he couldn’t see me for 2 weeks.

What gives her that right?

She even was rude to my boyfriend for no reason.

Any advice is appreciated. And is there any way of resolving this? 

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  • There will always be communication issues if you or someone else is Autistic. There’s always a chance your mother is autistic, and you both don’t see this. Even if she isn’t, she might well have another condition if she’s up and down with moods,

    The house is hers, and you live with her. I think she has every right to say who can and can’t live there. I just think how she says it, and what her reasons are aren’t right. If you are 18, there’s not much she can do about you having visitors. I would suggest telling her in advance who’s coming and when, 

    How was she rude to your boyfriend? 

    Cats and dogs will have fleas if they are indoor pets, or outdoor ones. The thing you must do, is get them treated with stuff from your vet as often as it states. And so, you will still see the odd flea, but there won’t be an infestation,

    You might want to try a product called Indorex. It is a spray. You can treat the whole room, or house with it, and it does work. Just follow the instructions carefully, and be mindful, it doesn’t go near any pet food or water. 

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  • There will always be communication issues if you or someone else is Autistic. There’s always a chance your mother is autistic, and you both don’t see this. Even if she isn’t, she might well have another condition if she’s up and down with moods,

    The house is hers, and you live with her. I think she has every right to say who can and can’t live there. I just think how she says it, and what her reasons are aren’t right. If you are 18, there’s not much she can do about you having visitors. I would suggest telling her in advance who’s coming and when, 

    How was she rude to your boyfriend? 

    Cats and dogs will have fleas if they are indoor pets, or outdoor ones. The thing you must do, is get them treated with stuff from your vet as often as it states. And so, you will still see the odd flea, but there won’t be an infestation,

    You might want to try a product called Indorex. It is a spray. You can treat the whole room, or house with it, and it does work. Just follow the instructions carefully, and be mindful, it doesn’t go near any pet food or water. 

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