Rudeness and not listening to instructions

Hi all,

Desperate parent here. We’re on day 3 of the school holidays and my wife and I are both at the end of our tether. 7yo girl is awaiting diagnosis for ASD but something seems to have switched the last couple weeks. She speaks to us like sh*t constantly. She backchats and doesn’t listen at all when she tell her to stop arguing back. Any instruction she’s given she ignores, forgets or just says ‘I’m doing what I want’. If we calmly try to explain why her behaviour isn’t acceptable, she rolls her eyes saying ‘yeah, yeah whatever’. If we try the naughty step or time out, she screams, throws things and the behaviour starts again immediately. She also is extremely self-loathing and will go on about how she doesn’t like herself, she’s the worst child in the world and how she wishes she was better. 
feel like we’re stuck between a rock and a hard place with this behaviour. 
PLEASE HELP!

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  • I agree with Homebird this behaviour starting in the last couple of weeks is likely due to the disrupted school schedule at the end of the school year (sports day, fun days, transition days) and now the fact that there is no school. Are you able to make some kind of visual calendar for her, or set up a home routine even if it’s quite simple with meal times on and times for different activities throughout the day

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  • I agree with Homebird this behaviour starting in the last couple of weeks is likely due to the disrupted school schedule at the end of the school year (sports day, fun days, transition days) and now the fact that there is no school. Are you able to make some kind of visual calendar for her, or set up a home routine even if it’s quite simple with meal times on and times for different activities throughout the day

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