Struggle to cope with my autistic 6 year old on my own

I have no family or friends to help me at all.

I had to give up my job to care for my son as he refuses to go to school and I can not find any childcare for him (I'm assuming this is because he's autistic although they don't admit that) 

He is extremely difficult to look after I can not leave the house with with as he's runs away and he lashes out. 

I also have a younger son and I feel terribly guilty my 4 year old has to live like this, we are prisoners in our home and have to endure day after day of screaming, hitting, kicking, spitting and smashing things up. Every day is stressful, we have no quality of life. We are miserable.

It often ends up with me totally overwhelmed and crying and shouting myself, and It breaks my heart to see how is effecting my youngest son. 

My husband works full time. I NEED him home with us.

Would we get any help/benefits if both me and my husband stay home to look after my autistic son. I know only 1 of us can claim carers allowance. 

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  • I'm concern your lad isn't getting any support or schooling. What can the local authority do to get him a place that can meet his need and help managing him to get him there and settled in? Does he have an EHCP?

    I understand school is difficult for him, but it can't just be he refuses and doesn't go. The authority must provide a school place that can cater to his needs. It's also the only way you will get some respite and a bit of quality time with your other boy.

    I'd also be asking what other help they can give you.

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  • I'm concern your lad isn't getting any support or schooling. What can the local authority do to get him a place that can meet his need and help managing him to get him there and settled in? Does he have an EHCP?

    I understand school is difficult for him, but it can't just be he refuses and doesn't go. The authority must provide a school place that can cater to his needs. It's also the only way you will get some respite and a bit of quality time with your other boy.

    I'd also be asking what other help they can give you.

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