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Son won’t accept diagnosis

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Hello. My son is 13. He was diagnosed with ASD just over two weeks ago. This has taken a very long time with alot  of appointments etc. I’ve spoken to him as positive as I can throughout this time. When he received his diagnosis he wouldn’t accept it and broke his heart - he said I created it in my mind and made everyone believe he has ASD. Everytime it’s mentioned he cries and says I’ve ruined his life. I’ve decided to not talk about it and try and let him process the information. But in all honesty I can’t see him ever accepting it. 
also with his hormones raging etc I’m finding everything so tough - and how to deal with him. He has his first CBT session yesterday which didn’t go well. He cried when ASD was mentioned and then due to his awkward social skills he didn’t open up at all. I feel so lost on what to do. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you. 

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  • What breaks my heart is how society views the way we think and perceive the world. 

    Once you get past that, Being autistic ist awesome. I think it's important to see the good qualities in this. 

    Behaviour therapy tends to focus on the wrong thing. Starting with the assumption that our behaviours are irrational or out-of-order. An integrated and thriving individual who's Autistic-Wired really enjoys who they are. We don't perceive or understand the world the same as our Non-autistic peers (also termed NeuroTypical). The key functioning differences that create a wedge between Autistic and Non-Autistic involve a different way to reason not with language but picture thinking and/or formula thinking, our ability to make connexions www.huffpost.com/.../amp focus and see detail (Monotropism: https://monotropism.org) and our hyper-sensory selves, which were originally useful for keeping the Tribe alive. autcollab.org/.../

    There are a ton of youtube creators who are Autistic, such as this chap www.youtube.com/.../AspergersfromtheInside Your son just needs to be able to see others who love who they are and what they're capable of. The world tends to see us as being humans with deficits. When in fact, everyone has strengths and limitations. Our strengths are incredibly valuable, but often overlooked. 

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  • What breaks my heart is how society views the way we think and perceive the world. 

    Once you get past that, Being autistic ist awesome. I think it's important to see the good qualities in this. 

    Behaviour therapy tends to focus on the wrong thing. Starting with the assumption that our behaviours are irrational or out-of-order. An integrated and thriving individual who's Autistic-Wired really enjoys who they are. We don't perceive or understand the world the same as our Non-autistic peers (also termed NeuroTypical). The key functioning differences that create a wedge between Autistic and Non-Autistic involve a different way to reason not with language but picture thinking and/or formula thinking, our ability to make connexions www.huffpost.com/.../amp focus and see detail (Monotropism: https://monotropism.org) and our hyper-sensory selves, which were originally useful for keeping the Tribe alive. autcollab.org/.../

    There are a ton of youtube creators who are Autistic, such as this chap www.youtube.com/.../AspergersfromtheInside Your son just needs to be able to see others who love who they are and what they're capable of. The world tends to see us as being humans with deficits. When in fact, everyone has strengths and limitations. Our strengths are incredibly valuable, but often overlooked. 

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