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Son won’t accept diagnosis

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Hello. My son is 13. He was diagnosed with ASD just over two weeks ago. This has taken a very long time with alot  of appointments etc. I’ve spoken to him as positive as I can throughout this time. When he received his diagnosis he wouldn’t accept it and broke his heart - he said I created it in my mind and made everyone believe he has ASD. Everytime it’s mentioned he cries and says I’ve ruined his life. I’ve decided to not talk about it and try and let him process the information. But in all honesty I can’t see him ever accepting it. 
also with his hormones raging etc I’m finding everything so tough - and how to deal with him. He has his first CBT session yesterday which didn’t go well. He cried when ASD was mentioned and then due to his awkward social skills he didn’t open up at all. I feel so lost on what to do. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you. 

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  • I want to say that denial is a very common first stage, i was diagnosed last week at 30 and i’m still in a constant flux of denial and confusion, you know the truth and eventually he will do too but its a big thing to come to terms with and is going to affect him forever so the best you can do is let him figure out his own way of taking it, it’s like grieving, everyones different and accepts in their own time, can’t imagine dealing with that when i was his age, you have done all the steps you can, maybe get him into your local mental health nurse and see if they have any ideas, my son is 12 and completely shuts down too and just shrugs or says dunno if he says anything, you are doing the best you can and it might take a while but eventually i think … if everyone calls you a fish, you’ll start wondering if you actually are one, hopefully he finds acceptance, 

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  • I want to say that denial is a very common first stage, i was diagnosed last week at 30 and i’m still in a constant flux of denial and confusion, you know the truth and eventually he will do too but its a big thing to come to terms with and is going to affect him forever so the best you can do is let him figure out his own way of taking it, it’s like grieving, everyones different and accepts in their own time, can’t imagine dealing with that when i was his age, you have done all the steps you can, maybe get him into your local mental health nurse and see if they have any ideas, my son is 12 and completely shuts down too and just shrugs or says dunno if he says anything, you are doing the best you can and it might take a while but eventually i think … if everyone calls you a fish, you’ll start wondering if you actually are one, hopefully he finds acceptance, 

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