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Trouble at school

MummyEmma

Hi all, just wondered of someone could give me any advice if they are going through a similar situation. Today at school my daughter who is 7 and has a diagnosis of Asd stabbed a boy in the face with a pencil then went onto wrecking the classroom at break she blew her top because she had to come inside and resorted to taking of her skirt in front of everybody and refused to put it back on, she swore at her teacher and kicked her 1:1 assistant. The whole day was a disaster. i assumed that due to the fact the school begged for help for a 1:1 of the LEA for my daughter who was granted for the full time of school that these incidents would stop. I feel like she may not be supporting her in a preventative way which I was hoping was the purpose for her bring there. I don't know what to do, I'm dreading the school run in the morning when I have to face the child's mother. What can I do???? are there any behaviour therapies I could try? I've heard of cbt but I don't know much else about it. Or should I just stick with the school dealing with her behaviour? Xx

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  • Hi - I can really appreciate how you're feeling.  I've been in a position a couple of times very similar to this.  The 1st time was for a few days only relating to respite care, but really upsetting for me + my son when he was little.  The 2nd was when he an adult + it went on, on + off, for a few yrs. To say it was v difficult is a serious underestimation. I spent I don't know how many hours over that time trying to inform the staff about autism but they really didn't get it for the most part.  In the end my son moved to get the support he needed in an environment that is much more suited to him.  At the heart of it both times : 1.  staff who didn't understand autism + didn't understand how it affected him as an individual.  2. being in the wrong environment - too busy, disorganised, too many people, etc.

    So all Mary R's advice is certainly worth ....she knows what she's talking about.  Sometimes we learn the hard way.  I don't think we shd have to for our children's sakes + our own.

     My son always went to autism-specific schools + they served him well : small classes, high pupil/staff ratio, staff who understood autism + the children in their care.  Nothing's ever perfect but I cdn't imagine him surviving in mainstream, even with a TA.

    I wish you good luck with all this.  I hope tomorrow isn't as bad as you think.  As Mary says, you need to get to the bottom of this was the head/teachers etc asap.  Don't let them blame you for their shortcomings.

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  • Hi - I can really appreciate how you're feeling.  I've been in a position a couple of times very similar to this.  The 1st time was for a few days only relating to respite care, but really upsetting for me + my son when he was little.  The 2nd was when he an adult + it went on, on + off, for a few yrs. To say it was v difficult is a serious underestimation. I spent I don't know how many hours over that time trying to inform the staff about autism but they really didn't get it for the most part.  In the end my son moved to get the support he needed in an environment that is much more suited to him.  At the heart of it both times : 1.  staff who didn't understand autism + didn't understand how it affected him as an individual.  2. being in the wrong environment - too busy, disorganised, too many people, etc.

    So all Mary R's advice is certainly worth ....she knows what she's talking about.  Sometimes we learn the hard way.  I don't think we shd have to for our children's sakes + our own.

     My son always went to autism-specific schools + they served him well : small classes, high pupil/staff ratio, staff who understood autism + the children in their care.  Nothing's ever perfect but I cdn't imagine him surviving in mainstream, even with a TA.

    I wish you good luck with all this.  I hope tomorrow isn't as bad as you think.  As Mary says, you need to get to the bottom of this was the head/teachers etc asap.  Don't let them blame you for their shortcomings.

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