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Mr "redacted- I know damn well who you are"

Paul M.

I have spent the past 4+ weeks advising my mother that a particular person was up to no good with her, he placed every accusation under the sun on her and despite me telling him during a phone conversation that she wasn't the type of woman to "chat up blokes", I am aware he frequents this board and I am pretty sure I know who he is, because I am not autistic and can spot "them" from a mile away, I am pretty certain he is still trying to do his BS with my autistic mother under a different name

Back. the. F&*k. off.

Do not make me namedrop you, I will do it and I have a strong hunch which "NAS$$$$$$" name you are going under.

You're very charismatic and very good at "chemistry", very good at the "woe is me" nonsense, leave my mom alone you piece of Human Detritus, I explicitly told you that you were more than welcome to visit and if you had any issues to phone me or my mother beforehand (you know what I am talking about), you did not, I gave you more than enough concessions, you did what you have always done though out your "relationship" with my mother, false promises alongside nonsensical you tube song videos.

Do. Not. Push. Me.

Find other prey!. 

On a serious note, How can I be a better son to my mother, I struggle greatly to understand her needs.

There it is.

Paul M.

Consigning this to the eternity of online interactions in 3, 2, 1.

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  • Also very sorry to hear that your mum's going through this. If they're who I'm assuming it is, she's one of the kindest and most thoughtful and supportive voices on here, and it would be an awful shame if it got to a point where she felt uncomfortable being on the forum - the community would be a lot poorer for her absence and I know she'd be missed a lot by many. Hopefully she feels reassured by the overwhelming number of people on here with no covert agenda, just a need for a place to feel understood and - when our mental health needs it - therapeutically 'think aloud' without being a tree falling in the forest. 

    In terms of being a better son, I don't think you need to ask that - it's clear from an earlier post or two (her appreciative words) that you've been doing a great job supporting her, and helped her to navigate a very challenging few weeks/months that caused her a lot of pain.  

    Looking back a few days, I think I know who 'redacted' is - which new profile, and in my naivety am only realising with hindsight because of your post/thread. Something felt a little 'off' there (the rapid parabolic trajectory of how it unfolded), but as this is a sanctuary for the neurodivergent I took it at face value even though it now seems so obvious that a certain result was being pursued, and a specific person. Indeed, I feel a little embarrassed that my own contribution to that thread was of no consequence, despite best intentions. I'm learning to finally be less trusting and more cynical, in my forties - better late than never- but I can still have terrible blindspots and I'm glad you've pointed out what you have as more vigilance certainly can't hurt. Though your mother seems very perceptive about many things, so probably had it sussed (and was classy enough to express that indirectly and politely in the recent thread, just in case) and clearly did the right thing as well. 

    Hope she's doing OK, and that life starts going a little easier on you both.

  • in reply to Shardovan

    I thought I'd jump in here and let you know that what you were thinking was spot on... about the identity of Paul's mother, and also about who 'redacted' is / was.

    If I attempted to explain I would probably sound completely paranoid, but there were a few things that 'redacted' had said in their post that really stood out to me. However, the person I had 'known' had what I considered to be a distinctive style of writing that I'd not come across with any other members. As 'redacted' did not share that same distinctive style of writing, I decided I was definitely being paranoid.

    I had sought Paul's opinion and when he had read that post by 'redacted' and the various comments, he was absolutely convinced it was the same person I had known. Like you, he had also felt that I was being singled out and pursued.

    It's unclear as to how much involvement Paul will continue to have with the forum, but knowing that he is looking out for me brings me comfort. I just wish I had heeded the advice that he and others had given me a lot sooner.

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  • in reply to Shardovan

    I thought I'd jump in here and let you know that what you were thinking was spot on... about the identity of Paul's mother, and also about who 'redacted' is / was.

    If I attempted to explain I would probably sound completely paranoid, but there were a few things that 'redacted' had said in their post that really stood out to me. However, the person I had 'known' had what I considered to be a distinctive style of writing that I'd not come across with any other members. As 'redacted' did not share that same distinctive style of writing, I decided I was definitely being paranoid.

    I had sought Paul's opinion and when he had read that post by 'redacted' and the various comments, he was absolutely convinced it was the same person I had known. Like you, he had also felt that I was being singled out and pursued.

    It's unclear as to how much involvement Paul will continue to have with the forum, but knowing that he is looking out for me brings me comfort. I just wish I had heeded the advice that he and others had given me a lot sooner.

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