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Help.....confused

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My 7 year old son was diagnosed 6 months ago with ASD and ADHD. I believed everything I was told and read about his meltdowns being out of his control and he's always so regretful after them. I've made so many changes to our home life and his school day but if anything the meltdowns are worse. Our one success is that he now gets ready for school without any meltdowns. We have agreed a reward for every morning he manages to do this and give loads of praise. I first saw this as really positive but now I'm wondering if he can control himself for this reward then how can his meltdowns be out of his control. What sparked my doubt was that he recently stopped a meltdown midway because a family friend appeared unexpectedly. These meltdowns are seriously affecting our home and happiness, my marriage and my daughter so I find myself really confused and angry at the thought this is avoidable. It's making it hard to buy in to all of the extra effort and exceptions my son "needs". Please help.....

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  • An autistic child can also have tantrums. The big difference between a tantrum and a meltdown is that a tantrum can be stopped by the child getting whatever it is that he or she wants, an autistic meltdown tends not to be stopped or eased by this type of external intervention. As an autistic adult I can tell you that an autistic meltdown is not entered voluntarily, it is triggered by a total inability to cope with a situation, be it sensory or emotional.

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  • An autistic child can also have tantrums. The big difference between a tantrum and a meltdown is that a tantrum can be stopped by the child getting whatever it is that he or she wants, an autistic meltdown tends not to be stopped or eased by this type of external intervention. As an autistic adult I can tell you that an autistic meltdown is not entered voluntarily, it is triggered by a total inability to cope with a situation, be it sensory or emotional.

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