My son is nine and has been referred for assessment, which has a two year waiting list in our area. There was no fight to get the referral, the school and GP both agreed it was necessary after a long meeting with my son's teacher and the ALNCo.
What we don't have is any support at the moment and there is very little available despite the fact that his meltdowns have increased in number and in the level of aggression. He's kicked holes in his bedroom door, bitten, kicked, punched, scratched and headbutted me and his father, I've ended up in A&E twice, and I'm very worried as he's started using items as weapons.
Everything I read on the internet says learn and avoid triggers and keep everyone involved safe, but triggers could be asking him to clean his teeth, or to take a break from playing a video game (he is obsessed with Mario games at the moment), or me being in work when he comes home from school as I'm still working from home. Trying to avoid everything moght be possible if it was short term while help was being put in place but we're nowhere near that.
He is having problems socially in school as he has no understanding of personal space and takes any attempt by other children to be left alone by him as a sign that they hate him, which he obviously finds distressing. The school are being very supportive and he's attending wellbeing sessions, has a support plan in place. But we're just at our wits end.
