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are the teenage years the worst

MaryR

Hi

My son is 13 and just diagnosed,with ASD been on anxiety and anti dpreseant meds for almost a year too.  Now in a special school. He is so up and down though its getting to me and I find myself wondering just how long he will have to live at home, will he ever be indpendant and not reliant on us. He is high functioning but has huge social difficulties,  I feel awkward when we are out and about as he appears so sullen and rude.  I find it really embarrassing.  He doesnt want to tell people he has ASD but I feel it would be much better if there was a sign on him which explained!

Sorry this is bit of a rant but needed to get it off my chest.  Anyone out there feel similar? I have two other children and feel I cant enjoy them as much as I should because always treading on eggshells around Joe!

Thanks for listening

Mary

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  •  Hi - at 13 I think it's a little bit early to say whether your son could live independently or not - plenty of time yet. Remember that there are many different types of independent supported living options.  For example, tenancies where tenants have 24 hr support, all the way through to tenancies where the support is much less.

     As your son is anxious + depressed then that will pervade all your lives.  Is there anything else, meds apart, that can be done to help with that?  How does he feel about his diagnosis, school, etc - it can be a lot to adjust to?  Most people haven't a clue about asd.  Most situations we're in don't lend themselves to a full explanation.  Some people aren't interested anyway.  Others are the opposite.  I wd try to concentrate on how his recent diagnosis may be affecting him.  There are books, probably on the home pg and via amazon that other posters have mentioned as being useful.  I hope things improve for all of you soon.

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  •  Hi - at 13 I think it's a little bit early to say whether your son could live independently or not - plenty of time yet. Remember that there are many different types of independent supported living options.  For example, tenancies where tenants have 24 hr support, all the way through to tenancies where the support is much less.

     As your son is anxious + depressed then that will pervade all your lives.  Is there anything else, meds apart, that can be done to help with that?  How does he feel about his diagnosis, school, etc - it can be a lot to adjust to?  Most people haven't a clue about asd.  Most situations we're in don't lend themselves to a full explanation.  Some people aren't interested anyway.  Others are the opposite.  I wd try to concentrate on how his recent diagnosis may be affecting him.  There are books, probably on the home pg and via amazon that other posters have mentioned as being useful.  I hope things improve for all of you soon.

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