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Teenage rows. I am so drained

Drained and confused

hei s 15. he has 'autistic processing issues' and 'adhd tendencies'  from a genetic disorder - so they are not constantly the same.

I have a jekyll and hyde and I am exhausted. I am tired of the saame rows about keeping his room tidy - to HELP him with his ORGANISATION. I am tried of nagging about homework - to HELP him keep out of trouble and succeed at school, I am tried of seeing that he doesn't have any friends in school of his own age and many don't like him because he doesn't understand the 'banter' and takes it too far.

I no longer know what to do.

I have sympathised, cajoled, supported, threatened, bribed, ignored (but I struggle to do that for long as I hate watching the consequences) but i am so so so fed up with the rows and being tolf I should just 'ignore it' by him.

When will it end? Am I alone?

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  • My 14 year old ASD/ADHD struggles with organisation. We have to assist at times and with taking things to school have several copies of the timetable. We used to get his bag ready, but he is gradually remembering to check himself or do it with us. His room is different, I have to regularly check for washing and persevere, occasionally finding he remembers. I have tried various things to help keep things tidy. Unfortunately he tends not to remember where he put things either so has two of things like school ties.

    It can be frustrating and it may be he needs a bit more help than some 15 year olds 

    Sometimes it works if I give one brief request. Small goals can work. When he remembers to bring his dishes it's a bonus.

    With homework he may find it hard to do at home or maybe follow the instructions. Is this something school can help with?

    You mention Jekyll and Hyde which can be said of PDA I think. If you look up PDA you might find something useful information ideas whether this is the case or not.

    It is hard when you know you have their best interest at heart. As a teenager it is hard sometimes I think for them to realize that they are not yet an adult and adults may have reasons why they try to guide them. I guess they don't see the full picture. I have to explain sometimes why teachers won't allow pupils to do things they might think fun.

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  • My 14 year old ASD/ADHD struggles with organisation. We have to assist at times and with taking things to school have several copies of the timetable. We used to get his bag ready, but he is gradually remembering to check himself or do it with us. His room is different, I have to regularly check for washing and persevere, occasionally finding he remembers. I have tried various things to help keep things tidy. Unfortunately he tends not to remember where he put things either so has two of things like school ties.

    It can be frustrating and it may be he needs a bit more help than some 15 year olds 

    Sometimes it works if I give one brief request. Small goals can work. When he remembers to bring his dishes it's a bonus.

    With homework he may find it hard to do at home or maybe follow the instructions. Is this something school can help with?

    You mention Jekyll and Hyde which can be said of PDA I think. If you look up PDA you might find something useful information ideas whether this is the case or not.

    It is hard when you know you have their best interest at heart. As a teenager it is hard sometimes I think for them to realize that they are not yet an adult and adults may have reasons why they try to guide them. I guess they don't see the full picture. I have to explain sometimes why teachers won't allow pupils to do things they might think fun.

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