• Replies 4 replies
  • Subscribers 70 subscribers
  • Views 1438 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

11 year old girl aggressive towards sibling

NAS80220

Hi everyone. I need help and advice. My currently undiagnosed asd girl is having severe trouble with noise. If her sister (7) makes any kind of vocal noise she immediately gets aggressive and agitated. She will then fly into a rage and scream at her to shut up or try to physically hurt her. 

She has taken to being aggressive towards her out of the blue to the point her sister is scared of her and I am worried that someone will get hurt ie if she were to hit or push her near the stairs or her sister were to defend herself and hurt her too. 

I can't have them in the same room together and being in the car is awful with the constant bickering and lashing out at her sister. Its like she hates everything her sister does. 

I just cry all the time because I am just so out of my depth and no idea how to advocate for both of my children. 

Parents

  • Hi NAS80220

    I am currently in the same situation.  I have a nearly 10 year old boy and a 8 year old girl.  the nearly 10 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD and still waiting for an autism assessment!!!  Your two children sound just like my two and most days i have to part them.  They do get on and i know they love each other but my boy just struggles dealing with his emotions and the contact they have is getting more and more physical. I also do not know what to do but I have just recently contacted a nurse at the adhd team I deal with and they suggested i apply for a support worker to see if they can help.  Not sure how long this process will take but i will try anything.

    Are you in the process of getting an asd assessment?  Is there anyone you could ask for help?  Please reach out to someone

    Sorry i cannot give any further advice but all i can say is please do not blame yourself.  I am sure you are doing all you can.  I know it is hard seeing your children fight.

    I hope you get some help 

Reply

  • Hi NAS80220

    I am currently in the same situation.  I have a nearly 10 year old boy and a 8 year old girl.  the nearly 10 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD and still waiting for an autism assessment!!!  Your two children sound just like my two and most days i have to part them.  They do get on and i know they love each other but my boy just struggles dealing with his emotions and the contact they have is getting more and more physical. I also do not know what to do but I have just recently contacted a nurse at the adhd team I deal with and they suggested i apply for a support worker to see if they can help.  Not sure how long this process will take but i will try anything.

    Are you in the process of getting an asd assessment?  Is there anyone you could ask for help?  Please reach out to someone

    Sorry i cannot give any further advice but all i can say is please do not blame yourself.  I am sure you are doing all you can.  I know it is hard seeing your children fight.

    I hope you get some help 

Children
No Data