12 year old no friends

Hi my 12 year son has just had a diagnosis, it hasn’t come as a shock to me but taken years to get it . He is the happiest nicest boy you could meet . But doesn’t want to go out anywhere and has no friends . He started sec school in September coped really well but gets on better with staff then fellow pupils . He finds it hard to join in . At weekends / holidays he happiest in his bedroom . Anywhere suggested he’s adamant he doesn’t want to go . My daughter on the other hand is restless at home and wants to be out doing things and going places so now either my hubby or me take her on our own . It breaks my heart to think he’s in his room on his own . I seen a youth club for autistic teenagers but there’s no way he would go where other kids will be . Tried beavers / go karting / holiday clubs over the years he hates them . When he does go out it’s walking somewhere quiet / playing on a beach anywhere. He seems happy enough but it’s sad what a lovely soft boy he is . Any advice for social anxiety 

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  • Is it that his interests are maybe not very age appropriate? Would rather talk about 'adult' topics like science or philosophy? Have you thought of of taking him to more adult things? Things that aline with his special interests? Yes he should get involved with other people his own age. He'll miss out on things if he doesn't. But developing a social life with an older crowd who share his interests might help him gain the confidence to do that.

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  • Is it that his interests are maybe not very age appropriate? Would rather talk about 'adult' topics like science or philosophy? Have you thought of of taking him to more adult things? Things that aline with his special interests? Yes he should get involved with other people his own age. He'll miss out on things if he doesn't. But developing a social life with an older crowd who share his interests might help him gain the confidence to do that.

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