Published on 12, July, 2020
Do I send my daughter to school tomorrow? She wants to go but at the same time I think she needs a day away from everyone and to recharge her batteries.
The past week, she has struggled greatly with the noise of 2 students in particular. Last week, the set of an alarm, upset many students, was banging about and making a lot of noise. Today, my daughter refused to do her afternoon lesson, Sport, because of how loud the boys were. She couldn't think straight and was overwhelmed. She did go for many walks and in the end ran away from her staff and called me. Today just hasn't been a good day for her.
The school does know that she struggles with the noise, and will do everything they can to make sure she's happy, but she will refuse to wear ear defenders. She says, 'I won't wear them all day because of some boys being noisy, they should have more self control and show respect to others, and its not fair to have to wear them because of someone else's actions'.
She is also becoming unwell do to stress and this impacts her tolerance of sensory issues. She is feeling dizzy and sick, due to stress and because she's not eating and drinking because of how overwhelmed she is and because she spends most of her day moving away from the boys. I have messaged her staff, still waiting for a reply, to see what is happening, and what else they can put in place for her. She wants to be in school, she enjoys it, but she also doesn't because of the boys.
I'm getting a bit worried to where this is heading because when she first joined she didn't care about them, a few months ago she would walk away and ignore them, now, she is starting to retaliate and tell them to shut up and chuck something at them. She said to me when she walked in the door, and I quote, 'If they keep doing this, being noisy and disruptive, then there's going to be war,'. She said this exact same thing at her previous school and jeez, it went on for months.
Today has been a much better day for her. The boys were offsite all day so its been really peaceful for everyone apparently.
I really hope they do something about the boys being noisy. Maybe if the school separates them from your daughter's classes by rescheduling time periods, then maybe your daughter will feel better.
My daughter, I believe is on the edge of a shutdown or something. She had a little meltdown last night and after a meltdown usually comes the shutdown. I fear one more thing will just make her withdraw. Her body literally shutdowns. She's unable to move, speak, and its very scary for her especially when teachers don't realise what's going on in the inside.
see a kid should read more than just the course textbook. The point of a library is to give them the opportunity for some self study, to move beyond the curriculum bare minimum to gain a broader understanding of topics.
Some children bring in their own and keep it on their desk, others borrow the schools ones and they are either in the students draws or in the cupboard. Basically everything is locked away unless it's theirs.
ah so they don't trust the kids with the books unless some one is looking over their shoulder. I get it. but it sucks for any kid that knows how to treat books properly.
It is a private specialist school so i don't know if they need a library or not. They do have a cupboard where books are kept in but it is locked.
ParentingAutism said:The school doesn't have a library
this is an indictment of the British educational system.
The school have gotten back to me. They said they are discussing things over and going to find ways to help the students, and try to sort out the boys. I'm happy they are doing something. They also said they are proud of my daughter for coping really well with it even though she struggled at the end of the day with it.
The school doesn't have a library, they do have a small sensory room she can go but refuses because it's still noisy, and the boys apparently keep punching the wall there, so she's anxious they might do it again.
could you send her with a note explaining the situation and suggesting she be allowed to go to the school library if class becomes too noisy?