Advice on how to deal with extreme anxiety in young child ?

I think it has started with a fear of bugs, mostly flying insects and I think the fluff made him think it was a bug he had a similar meltdown on Friday where he was fixated on the floor and refused to walk on the floor or go anywhere without anyone else. He’s even refusing to go to bathroom alone. I’m really struggling with finding advice. He is still in nursery as he was deferred a year but he has similar issues though not as extreme as he has been having at home recently.

You could ask your GP for an opinion on this. Is it a phobia of bugs mainly? Could you talk with him and ask him where his fear of bugs has come from? Has something happened to trigger this fear? 

I feel like initially it was the fear of the bugs I’m not sure why. Possibly because bees and things have started coming out now possibly the noise they make ? But nothing specific has happened for him to have the extreme fear. I have spoken to him and he can’t really express much of what he’s feeling just that he doesn’t like it and he is scared. He has also developed a dislike to anything on his hands like pen or food which he never had an issue with before but he does have issues if he stands on branches, stones or snow so I think it might be sensory ? But its only escalated to this extreme in the last week. I’m going to call the doctor tomorrow and ask for advice though I’m not really sure what to say? There isn’t any funding in my area for one to one advice I have asked and been told this :(

Gp said he was too young for any type of medication to help and said she couldn’t do anything to speed up the waiting list for assessment. My older son has also been on the waiting list almost 3 years but he isn’t as bad as my younger son he is more social issues. The educational psychologist has assessed my younger son within nursery so knows him so I’m hoping she could possibly help but if not I will keep chasing up the referral x

That’s disappointing. I wouldn’t necessarily just accept that if you’re not happy. Does the GP mean an autism assessment? Does your son not have a diagnosis yet? I would do all the research you can - I wouldn’t rely on the Ed. psych and Camhs to give you all the info and help you need. They are often a disappointment I’m sorry to say (although you might be lucky and get someone whose really committed to helping your son. It can vary a lot. I really do empathise - seeing our children in so much distress is the worst feeling. Keep in touch on here - there’s so much solidarity in this community. 

Yes it could be all the talk of moving to primary school he is very affectionate and very attached to his nursery teacher. The other day she was saying he said he didn’t want to go to school until he was 6 and adamant he was staying in nursery. So that kinda makes sense now. I actually purchased a weighted blanket off Amazon and I’ve told him it’s heavy because it’s like a big hug from mum so called it his hug blanket and will keep him calm this seems to have worked tonight to settle him into bed x

Yes it could be all the talk of moving to primary school he is very affectionate and very attached to his nursery teacher. The other day she was saying he said he didn’t want to go to school until he was 6 and adamant he was staying in nursery. So that kinda makes sense now. I actually purchased a weighted blanket off Amazon and I’ve told him it’s heavy because it’s like a big hug from mum so called it his hug blanket and will keep him calm this seems to have worked tonight to settle him into bed x