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I can't get my child to school

Sarah

Hi I can't get my child age 13 to go to school. We think they have autism waiting to see the child development team. They don't talk much or show feeling. Home life is fine when they don't have school. 

They stay in bed when it's a school day and I can't get them out. I know they want to learn but school is over whelmed them. Loud sounds too many people.

In year 7 when they was working from home they enjoyed school so much. They are asking me if they can stay home and learn but I don't see the school doing that. 

I don't know what to do? I just want them to be happy. But the more people that get involved the harder it gets. They only like to talk to mum and dad. 

Sorry I feel like I'm at a dead end and everyone keeps looking at me for answers.

Sarah (mum)

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  • Hi Sarah

    We are currently going through a very similar stage and being assessed next next month. Our daughter is nearly 15 and cant leave the house, wont engage in any way with other people outside of the family. She has been absent from school for nearly 14 months now.

    Covid definitely highlighted the issues more. It was her perfect bubble, she could still exceed at her school work but didn't need to see anyone! I have found help through this community and also through Early Help, we tried CAMHS and although they had some useful suggestions she wouldn't engage.

    I also bought her a book about Anxiety that she can work through at her own pace and now have visual aids on our fridge so she can see what is happening on a monthly/daily basis.

    Its really hard and overwhelming when all you want is for your child to be happy, by telling people what you are going through and contacting people for help, you are doing an amazing job!! Don't ever forget that there is always someone who is willing to listen, you just have to keep pushing the professionals to get where you want to be for your child. Their mental health is the most important thing.

    I'm sorry i can't give you the answers you need, but you are never alone. Good luck! x 

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  • Hi Sarah

    We are currently going through a very similar stage and being assessed next next month. Our daughter is nearly 15 and cant leave the house, wont engage in any way with other people outside of the family. She has been absent from school for nearly 14 months now.

    Covid definitely highlighted the issues more. It was her perfect bubble, she could still exceed at her school work but didn't need to see anyone! I have found help through this community and also through Early Help, we tried CAMHS and although they had some useful suggestions she wouldn't engage.

    I also bought her a book about Anxiety that she can work through at her own pace and now have visual aids on our fridge so she can see what is happening on a monthly/daily basis.

    Its really hard and overwhelming when all you want is for your child to be happy, by telling people what you are going through and contacting people for help, you are doing an amazing job!! Don't ever forget that there is always someone who is willing to listen, you just have to keep pushing the professionals to get where you want to be for your child. Their mental health is the most important thing.

    I'm sorry i can't give you the answers you need, but you are never alone. Good luck! x 

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