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NAS79127

Hello 

my daughter is 21 and is in the waiting list for a diagnosis, but I feel like I am failing her everyday, sometimes I think I understand then it all goes *** up!

it’s a constant battle everyday, arguments tears I feel guilty for her and my other daughters I am trying to keep everything going but I am drained and to be honest I don’t think I can take much more

  • I think that you should have some space and time to yourself each day, maybe before your kids get up in the morning, or after they have gone to bed. Otherwise it will just be a lot of conflict and no time to calm down from the stress. Having some personal space is healthy, especially when you are drained and exhausted from everything that's going on in your life. At least your daughter will be assessed one day, and until then you can only do so much for everyone. I mean you're one person trying to understand and solve everybody's problems, and that's a difficult job. I mean even one person who has a health issue might need a team of doctors and nurses and other health care professionals to help treat them, so whatever you manage to do is fine. You can only do so much before you get drained, because humans are not machines, they need time to recuperate. 

  • Giving up is not an option at all. If anything that will be more damaging then fighting through it.

    She is obviously going through a tough time and you are clearly struggling as well.

    Have you done any reading into Autism?

    Without wanting to be construed as rude or crass, when you get into arguments, do you say things such as;

    Don't be stupid

    Grow up

    What may seem logical and normal to you, is probably not logical or normal to your daughter