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Anxiety

Leila

Hi I was wondering if anyone has any advice? 
I have a 6 year old son with asd, it is Easter half term and he has become very anxious about going outside.I find when he is at school and in he’s normal routine he is fine but at weekends and school breaks he becomes more anxious and stressed he don’t want to leave the house and just wants to stay indoors in he’s favourite pjs.my younger 2 children have had chicken pox so routine has been off the last couple of weeks but as they are now better I said we would go to the park today this ended in my son having a full scale meltdown because he didn’t want to leave the house It took over an hour to calm him we did eventually go to the park and he really enjoyed himself.if I mention going out or for a walk or anything he becomes stressed. Any advice would be helpful x

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  • I can relate to your son, the best days ever for me are in my pj's and not going outside however my 5 nearly 6 year old daughter wants to be out all the time. 

    I have no advice because I feel like everyday I am just winging it but up to now what is working is plenty of notice and chatting about if we go out, how long it will be for and usually the next day can be a cosy home day. Meeting the needs for everyone is so hard.

    Does your son enjoy himself with you all once he gets out?

  • in reply to R

    Thank you for the reply.it is hard because I also have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter so things can get tricky trying to keep everyone’s needs on a level. My 6 yo used to love being outside when younger but lately it’s changed. We spend a lot of time in the garden but the only way I can get him out there atm is to take he’s kinetic sand outside up to the garden table and he makes Dinosaur shapes with it ( dinosaurs are he’s ultimate happy place )  When we do go to the park he really enjoys himself but the littlest thing can change that. 

  • in reply to Leila

    On a lighter note...I'm not going out tomorrow and I'm going to hard boil some eggs and let my daughter loose to decorate them. In my pj's hehe

    Normally what happens is, I sit there decorating one too. I have all my youngest sons( 14 now) eggs on a shelf that were decorated. I can't imagine if they ever got broken....ewwww

  • in reply to R

    Wake up tomorrow thinking " today I'm just going to wing it" 

    The best days happen when you think like that. Xxxxx

    The worst days can also happen like that too...but it's a bad day and it isn't your fault. 

    I once had such a bad day because I stood on a plug hahaha. Standing on a plug didn't make me a bad parent, it just gave me the mind set of feeling like one.

  • in reply to Leila

    Hey see...I have more worries about the eggs(I've put in my profile pic) breaking. 

    You are doing a fine job, worrying is a sign you care. Let yourself off the hook a bit more though because the little buggers pick up on a worrying parent. Just find your own way. The social norm is exhausting. 

    On an aeroplane we are told to put the oxygen mask over ourselves before our children....omg that goes against everything in oursves until we realise, we need to stay alive to be able to take care of others. ....you've got this Thumbsup 

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  • in reply to Leila

    Hey see...I have more worries about the eggs(I've put in my profile pic) breaking. 

    You are doing a fine job, worrying is a sign you care. Let yourself off the hook a bit more though because the little buggers pick up on a worrying parent. Just find your own way. The social norm is exhausting. 

    On an aeroplane we are told to put the oxygen mask over ourselves before our children....omg that goes against everything in oursves until we realise, we need to stay alive to be able to take care of others. ....you've got this Thumbsup 

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  • in reply to R

    Wake up tomorrow thinking " today I'm just going to wing it" 

    The best days happen when you think like that. Xxxxx

    The worst days can also happen like that too...but it's a bad day and it isn't your fault. 

    I once had such a bad day because I stood on a plug hahaha. Standing on a plug didn't make me a bad parent, it just gave me the mind set of feeling like one.