Anxiety

This sounds similar to my 6 year old daughter. In her case school is so overwhelming for her ( she often refuses to go) I think she just prefers the security and comfort of being home. Maybe your son enjoys having routine and structure more so. A visual timetable may be helpful so he can see what activities are planned. If he enjoys playing with sand you could plan to go to a park with a sand area or allow him to bring his. 

Wake up tomorrow thinking " today I'm just going to wing it" 

The best days happen when you think like that. Xxxxx

The worst days can also happen like that too...but it's a bad day and it isn't your fault. 

I once had such a bad day because I stood on a plug hahaha. Standing on a plug didn't make me a bad parent, it just gave me the mind set of feeling like one.

Hey see...I have more worries about the eggs(I've put in my profile pic) breaking. 

You are doing a fine job, worrying is a sign you care. Let yourself off the hook a bit more though because the little buggers pick up on a worrying parent. Just find your own way. The social norm is exhausting. 

On an aeroplane we are told to put the oxygen mask over ourselves before our children....omg that goes against everything in oursves until we realise, we need to stay alive to be able to take care of others. ....you've got this  

Yea I suppose I do a bit, I think I judge myself to much and feel I’m not doing aswell as I should be sometimes. I’ve Neva come on to a chat room before or even spoke to another parent with an autistic child.but your advise is just what I needed to hear and I probably need to stop worrying and just be more aware of giving warnings and routine. 

and the egg thing is a great idea hopefully the shelf won’t ever  fall down tho, the smell from them cracked eggs

On a lighter note...I'm not going out tomorrow and I'm going to hard boil some eggs and let my daughter loose to decorate them. In my pj's hehe

Normally what happens is, I sit there decorating one too. I have all my youngest sons( 14 now) eggs on a shelf that were decorated. I can't imagine if they ever got broken....ewwww

Oh I really do understand. I have 4 children and a grandchild who is 1. Every single one if them have different needs. Playing at keeping everyone happy is so damn hard. 

Maybe school exhausts your son and he probably has to put up with so many other children there. 

I know this might seem a weird question but, what do you want? Are you feeling like you are shrinking away trying to meet everyone's needs? I see alot of parents in the school holidays juggling and entertaining their children. ....children are so unique, if left to be bored for a while they will start hunting around the house and garden for an adventure. It isn't your job to entertain them, it's your job to look after them and look after yourself. ....I am telling myself this advice too you know, it came from my nana.

Thank you for the reply.it is hard because I also have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter so things can get tricky trying to keep everyone’s needs on a level. My 6 yo used to love being outside when younger but lately it’s changed. We spend a lot of time in the garden but the only way I can get him out there atm is to take he’s kinetic sand outside up to the garden table and he makes Dinosaur shapes with it ( dinosaurs are he’s ultimate happy place )  When we do go to the park he really enjoys himself but the littlest thing can change that. 

I can relate to your son, the best days ever for me are in my pj's and not going outside however my 5 nearly 6 year old daughter wants to be out all the time. 

I have no advice because I feel like everyday I am just winging it but up to now what is working is plenty of notice and chatting about if we go out, how long it will be for and usually the next day can be a cosy home day. Meeting the needs for everyone is so hard.

Does your son enjoy himself with you all once he gets out?