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DLA, good behavior in school but not at home

wood36

Hi! just wonder if someone could possibly give me a bit of suggestion?

My ASD 10yr son is independent in school but completely opposite at home, he still needs my one-to-one assistance for very basic daily routine e.g. changing, bathing, brushing teeth. getting up, carrying him to toilet etc. He often refuses to walk so that I have to carry him a lot (10yrs! oh my god!) But he un/dresses himself in school and walks in school or during little school trips, requests toilet. But at home if I don’t help him, nothing starts.

I am planning to apply for DLA. I quite often heard that DLA is judged (mainly) based on school reports, so if the school report says he is good, there is no chance to get DLA.   

How do I convince the decision makers that he genuinely needs a lot of help at home and he is not just lazy, although he (technically) CAN do in school. How do I justify these extreme behavioral differences are due to his autism?

I would very much appreciate if someone could help me. Many thanks

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  • i had simular concerns with my son who seems to cope at school but once its home time all hell breaks loose due to the build up of anxiety that he bottles up through out the day. my son got took of his iep last yr due to him 'conforming at school' *note conforming as this was mentioned when i had to reaply for dla late last yr, and his school reports are good mainly maths and i.t but it shows his struggle with english due to lack of imagination. dont worry to much about that and emphasies how his need to conform in school causes problems at home. if it does get rejected you can appeal (stressful but do it) and get his pead or dr whoever see's him due to his autism to back you up if you do appeal. my son got his awarded for next 5 yrs even with him conforming at school. good luck 

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  • i had simular concerns with my son who seems to cope at school but once its home time all hell breaks loose due to the build up of anxiety that he bottles up through out the day. my son got took of his iep last yr due to him 'conforming at school' *note conforming as this was mentioned when i had to reaply for dla late last yr, and his school reports are good mainly maths and i.t but it shows his struggle with english due to lack of imagination. dont worry to much about that and emphasies how his need to conform in school causes problems at home. if it does get rejected you can appeal (stressful but do it) and get his pead or dr whoever see's him due to his autism to back you up if you do appeal. my son got his awarded for next 5 yrs even with him conforming at school. good luck 

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